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    I spent so many years in the army I am stil not really de-institutionalized. I made my bed every day as a student with bed spread as I didn’t want to dirty my bed clothes I’m case someone sat on the bed (small room). I still fold clothes for easy counting. I used to make my wife super angry when I complained about clutter “in the common rooms” as I always took my comic, book or whatever with me as I left the room.

    Tbh I only ever got positive comments from the women I dated.

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    Is it just perspective, or is the picture on the left side of the window lower than the one on the right?

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    Not gay, I just fear the idea of being around another human. I am incapable of romance.

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    Silly silly bedroom lol. Malelivingspace is the malefashionadvice for chubby reddit boys. Everything plain, soulless, and inoffensive. No character whatsoever, just “stick to the template,” Eames lounges and brasilia credenzas galore. The only place online where “what color KALLAX should I get to match my 670?” is asked as a serious question and will get many strongly opinionated replies.

    Live a little in your living space. I think even basic.space gives better homespherebuilding advice than that sub

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      malefashionadvice

      I used to visit that sub a lot about ten years ago. It looks like it hasn’t changed a bit in that time - it even still has the same little fit drawings on the top bar. Has male fashion somehow frozen?

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        I wish it hadn’t changed, it’s gotten much worse, as has much of Reddit. Like the other guy said, all the mods on MFA left last year and took the core community to Discord (apparently, I don’t use Discord though). What’s left is just middle schoolers and bot accounts.

        Interestingly I did hop back on Reddit a few days ago on a little check-in and saw this post on MFA. Might’ve been the subconscious reason I name dropped it above in the first place.

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        All the content creators on MFA dipped after the api drama, all that’s left on that sub is reposts. Many of the userbase moved to their discord

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      Am gay. I don’t make the bed unless I expect visits. Does it make me feel fricking good to see a tidy bed and house? Yes. Will I do it every day? Absolutely not.

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        Just like us cis folk might feel as well. Am cis male, feel the same way, sorry of. In fact, I might even make the bed more often when my wife isn’t around because she keeps telling me that living things like a tidy bed more just after you get up out of it, so wait a while until making it. But if I wait, it never gets done. I’ll do it immediately if she isn’t around.

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          FYI, gay men can be cis too, I guess you meant straight. Cis means you feel like the sex you physically have, it has nothing to do with sexual preference.

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            Ah okay. Gosh, I’ve had the wrong idea about that. I thought it was what you describe plus being straight. My mistake, thank you so much for the correction.

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      I make the bed, at least my side of it, every day. If I don’t, my wife, along with the cats and dog, won’t give me any covers when I get in.

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        I never understood sleeping in the same bed as a dog. Feels so filthy. Even a cat, bro. (Lived with cats for 22 years before moving from parent.)

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    So many people have thought I was gay I went into introspection. Turns out I’m very straight.

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      I’m my late teens and early twenties, I had several occurrences of gay guys hitting on me, to the point where I started to worry that there was something about me. It seems funny to me now, but I really did have a period of wondering if I could be and was just repressing it because of my Catholic upbringing. But ultimately I realized that I just didn’t find guys attractive at all, and even the thought of kissing a guy was kind of a boner killer. So I get what you’re saying, even though on the surface it sounds funny to say you wondered if you could be gay.

      Sometime later I ended up with a couple of close gay friends, and I mentioned it to them. They said it was probably because I put out a very non-judgemental vibe and didn’t seem like a homophobe, so it probably didn’t seem risky to hit on me.

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      I will say this in my bluntly antiquated way (47 man).

      I kissed my buddy in high school because fuck it it was a dare. Didn’t like it it’s fucking weird. I wear pink. Love pink. I’ve painted my nails, dyed my hair, wore a dress before. I do all that because I know I’m straight. It’s hilarious watching less secure people do juggling exercises in their heads when I know I’m going home and I’m fucking chicks.

      My current gf is far more conservative than I am so I’ve toned down a lot but my joke has always been my grandma thought I was gay and asked my cousin once. He told her I’m not because he’s walked in on me so many times having sex with girls lol.

      Moral of the story, don’t give a fuck what people think. Do you and if doing you is being gay then be fucking gay. Own it. Trust people like me will have your back if some dickhead pushes back.

      I’m with John Waters. We need to bring perverts back into fashion.

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        Yeah, it’s usually just a compliment. Some things that implied I was gay were having gay friends, smiling, being friendly and not always having sex-seeking behavior with girls. Probably also that I don’t have traditionally male hobbies like football and I’m also a good listener. Then there’s the fact that I grew up in an all female household and I’m up for listening to matters of the heart.

        Rest I’m pretty much a stereotype guy, I go to the gym, mediocre hygiene and dress like I have no sense of style. I’ve had some girls even say “I first thought you were gay but in reality you’re really straight”. Probably my love of having sex with girls gave it away finally.

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        I’m 54, thin and wear women’s clothes all the time. My wife balked at me getting a couple of white linen blouses at the thrift, then she saw me in one at the beach. Hubba hubba.

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        Dude, same.

        I don’t wear much pink, but I paint my nails, I color my beard non-standard colors (I look great in purple).

        Completely straight, never once had an interest in the same gender. I often accompany friends to drag shows and gay bars and I have a blast.

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          If it helps narrow minded people understand just say that pink used to be considered the man’s color and baby blue was actually for girls before WW2. It’s fun to watch them realize colors have no gender.

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      For some reason lots of women think I’m gay too, even when I had a woman friend wingman for me. I’m self sufficient, reasonably clean, I dress nice (with help), and honestly a bit odd so I suppose that’s why they’d think that. Just like you though, I’m quite straight

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        They weren’t calling ya gay because you dress nice and take care of yourself, it was that cock in yer ass

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          Ah, I thought they wouldn’t be able to notice through my pants >.< next time I won’t wear something so tight!

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    This seems like the thread to ask. I am wiring up a two-way switch so that a person on either side of my bed can turn the bedside light on or off without having to roll over to the side that the light is on. Is… Is that gay?

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      It is gay, yes, but since you’re doing electrical work it’s pretty butch. I’d say it makes you more lesbian than anything else. If you get some smart plugs to put them lamps on you can set them for voiced activation and regain some heterosexuality (but only the nerdy, techy kind that comes with big Reddit Mod energy).

      If you want to be back into Normal Straight Bro territory you have to make the voice command for the lamps the sound of you railing a chick. It’s the only way to square things up. I’m sorry, I don’t make the rules, and homo math can be very complicated.

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        I would honestly say that the smart plugs and general electrical work pretty much go hand in hand. All my very much heterosexual male acquaintances that are electricians love smart plugs. Smart plugs everywhere. Going to their homes is like coming to an experimental museum of “how can I just barely make this building up to code while nothing fucking works”.

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          Honest to God, I love my smart plugs. Starting using them because my mom is bed bound, and can’t get up to turn off lights and such… Eventually just put everydamnthing on one. It’s just so fucking convenient… When the power doesn’t go out (lots of brownouts here) and knock the Internet out.

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          The naming is not consistent. As Wikipedia puts it,

          This article follows usage in the United States. Readers in most other countries should read “two-way” or “SPDT” for the United States “three-way”; and “intermediate”, “crossover” or “DPDT” switch for the United States “four-way”.

          The switches I’m using are marked with cute “ON/ON” labels which I suppose could be a metaphor for something.

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            If you rock it up to a switch, then as the wiring diagram shows: (N)ot gonna (L)ie, (MCB) My Curious Bro, a 3 way gang-bang is pretty gay.

            Edit: on an unrelated note, if the neutral wire comes from the light rose and not the switch itself as shown above then you’re gonna need a switch that handles live wires only. In the UK a lot of the newer houses now have the neutral wire in the switch, but before then many UK houses were very gay with the wiring.

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          Well, if there’s only 2 switches then 2x 2-way is enough. Otherwise, it’s (n-2)x 3-way switches plus 2x 2-way.

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      Lightstrip behind the headboard. Wireless switch in the middle. Problem solved, no homosexuality involved.