• RandomStickman@fedia.io
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    4 months ago

    her own boyfriend audiobook library

    mfw I’m a sighted straight man and will never have my own boyfriend audiobook library

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    This is something the neckbeards need to take a page from (apologies for the intended pun).

    It boils down to this. No matter who you’re dealing with, no matter what they look like, no matter what may afflict them… People want to be treated like people. Not be “looked after” or “taken care of” or whatever…

    The friend zone doesn’t exist. If you’re in a “friend zone”, one of two things is true: either, they’re not attracted to you (big deal, move on), or you’ve made it clear to them that you would be a nightmare to date.

    Pretty much every gf I’ve ever had in my 20+ years of dating, started with friendly conversation and normal get togethers with friends. I’m going to depart the dating pool now, the ring is on order and I got the tracking number yesterday.

    Stop treating anyone like they’re a prize to be won, or that you need to do something “get” them. If you’re being yourself, and nerding out over something you’re genuinely interested in, and that turns them off, then maybe your happiness isn’t important to that person you like so much… Maybe you need to find someone who can be happy that you’re happy. Simply: you deserve to be with someone who loves who you are, not what you are for them.

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      I didn’t win the love of the mother of my child for anything I did yesterday. I did it because of what she expects tomorrow.

      The higher her expectations, the better I must be doing. I never want to give her an excuse to lower those expectations and none of them have to do with fancy gifts, expensive dates or anything like that.

      Love is grand but it is built from small devotions.

      Trying to be the man Fred Rogers said I could be was a good place to start. She found me there and we got here together. I couldn’t be happier.

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    I had a partner at one point that loved me reading to her. She was not a big reader and read slowly but wanted to enjoy the stories, so I’d read to her. It’s an amazing feeling to have someone fall asleep on you while you read to them.

    I love a good voice so I’d be pretty happy to have someone read to me too.

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      I mean, seeing people like audio-books. If I had a girlfriend with a really nice voice, and she was willing to record herself reading to me, I would like that too.

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        It doesn’t even have to be “really nice” just alright to listen to. Do you know how disappointing it is to listen to an audio book you were excited for, only to immediately despise the readers voice?

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          I got this Audiobook once that I had to quit, only like 1/43 of the way in, because I could not STAND the narrator. He had this terrible habit of dropping the ends of sentences, like imagine if I just mumbled off this whole part. Every time you heard a new sentence, you wondered if your headphones were broken. But in fact, the narrator is just a dunce.

          How this yokel was allowed to record a book is beyond me.

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          Honestly, it wouldn’t even have to be a really nice voice. I would like it regardless. Hell, at this point in my life, if someone did something this thoughtful for me, I probably wouldn’t even know how to react. I would probably just stand there, stunned, while my brain processes the situation.

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      One thing about braille, it’s more difficult to produce, and less space efficient than just letters on the page. Here’s the lord of the rings in braille: http://www.braillebookstore.com/Lord-of-the-Rings-Trilogy. And here it is in normal writing: https://www.thalia.de/shop/home/artikeldetails/A1060442563. As you can see, the braille version has a lot more pages. (keep in mind the version for sighted people I linked is a German version covering all three books). In addition the sighted version, despite being presented as a luxury edition, is cheaper than any of the three lord of the rings books in braille. This could just be blind people being price gouged, though. But nevertheless, reading as a hobby is more difficult and more expensive for the blind.

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      Lots of blind people don’t read braille for fun. Of course they’ll use it to navigate public buildings and such but braille books are crazy expensive, cumbersome, and not typically very well put together.