Don’t do good things that look bad.
Parents told me that when I was young. It made more sense as I became older.
What does that advice mean to you, in practical terms? Like with an example?
Not sure if this applies, but “You can never love someone else until you love yourself” was a lesson my dad taught me from a very young age.
If you don’t like yourself, you’ll almost inevitably end up with someone who is taking advantage because you won’t be able to stand up for yourself and you won’t speak up when they hurt you.
There are the very rare exceptions, but they are the ones who help you help yourself. Someone who truly helps you will not shower you with gifts or compliments, but rather will help you recognize and change what you don’t like about yourself. In other words, “Only a true friend would be that truly honest.”
“If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else?” -RuPaul
I didn’t understand the question so came to read the replies out of curiosity but couldn’t work it out so searched the web for what wax-on-wax-off meant. Now I think nobody else understood the question either.
The phrase is a reference to the original karate kid movie. Rather than immediately teaching Daniel karate, Mr miyagi made him wax a bunch of cars, paint fences, sand floors, etc. The repetitive motions were actually training for particular karate moves, so rather than instructing the move, he already had it committed to muscle memory.
Pretty sure the context of the post means “non-obvious advice.” Something that clicks later.
It was about doing something seemingly unrelated and simple that helped to learn something more profound. Not seeing it in most (any?) of the answers.
The „make you bed every day“ advice certainly goes in that direction.
“Confidence coffee”.
Let me explain; when you go on stage, you’re nervous and you need some water because your mouth dries out. Bring water in a mug/travel mug.
It’s self regulating. The dryer your mouth is, the more you need to drink water. The more you appear to sip coffee while publicly speaking, the more relaxed you look.
Compare to swigging from a water bottle; your nerves are on public display.
Confidence coffee=water in an opaque coffee container.
Could you just actually drink coffee? I mean I guess the caffeine isn’t necessarily the best for situations of anxiety, but I find a cup of coffee really relaxing and if it helps when it looks like you’re drinking it I wonder if really drinking it wouldn’t help similarly.
Depending on your level of caffeine tolerance/dependency actual coffee might be even better.
Alternatively: Decaf.
