I am currently in a social event and I am too exhausted to have conversations, so I figured I just pretend I’m busy texting by writing this post. I have to stay here for at least two more hours and I have two more (social) things to do tomorrow… one of them I’ll probably cancel because it is just too much but I did not think of an excuse yet… I feel dishonest and I really hate it, but I also didn’t have really good experiences coming out as autistic… it has never felt accomodating and often pretty invalidating. My depression has been hitting harder than usual, which is extra hard because I have to pretend I am okay just to avoid interactions I can’t handle right now. So anywhere I’m not even trying to make a point here I just need something to keep be busy and not make me look weird. Anyways, wish me luck idk, I’m really not enjoying life a lot rn :I

Edit: thanks a lot everyone! I read the replies several times, it has been reassuring and as a plus it kept me busy yesterday. :)

  • SpeedLimit55@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    1 year ago

    Sometimes its best to simply say “Sorry I can’t make it” and offer no reason or excuse. If someone asks why you can say its for a personal reason which is not a lie.

    • nichtsowichtig@feddit.deOPEnglish
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      1 year ago

      I’ve done this countless times already… it sucks the most when I cancel things I genuinely like but I can’t plan my social battery very well so I end up being really unreliable

  • 👍Maximum Derek👍@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
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    1 year ago

    I just got an urgent call from the puppy you’re dog sitting. They need to go for a walk and they say you left the oven on or the fridge door open or something. Well, shucks, I guess you’ll have to head home now.

    • nichtsowichtig@feddit.deOPEnglish
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      1 year ago

      haha thanks! I agreed to help out with a few things in a local cultural event and I’d feel really rude to leave now… But exit strategies are kind of a science in itself. it usually has to be something urgent enough that you can’t say good bye to everyone, yet not urgent enough for people to ask follow up question. Tonight it’ll certainly be the “oh uber is coming I gotta hurry!”

  • DoubleOwl7777@feddit.deEnglish
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    1 year ago

    say sorry i cant make it. done. why are you guys always needing bs excuses. maybe i just dont get that as a german.

    • nichtsowichtig@feddit.deOPEnglish
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      1 year ago

      well if I want to maintain the few people around me that I have I kinda have to try not letting them down too much. I hate excuses too and that’s why I just pull through a lot of these situations.