I would love something that you could spraypaint on a wall within seconds, like the anarchy-A

sim, infelizmente. acho motivo suficiente para evitar a Meta. só que os EUA não è Israel. È uma grande acusação dizer que eles estão passando esses dados para o IDF. Não digo que é impossivel, mas até agora não tem provas firmes para isso.

I wonder what the fediverse’s answer will be to this problem once it gets popular. Will instances that has a lot of bot content be defederated? some kind of fedipact against bot (unlabled) content?

no, they just foribly impregnate cows every single year of their life, take away their calves the second they are born to take the milk from their overloaded udders until they collapse or stop being comercially viable. Then they are killed. Just like their male children a few weeks after being born.

The milk industry is arguably more cruel than the meat industry. We should reject both

do outro thread no privacy@lemmy.ml:

They really don’t provide enough to back up the insane claims they’re making. I would take all this with a massive grain of salt as it’s most likely bullshit wartime propaganda designed to stir people up.

O artigo é mais especulação e não fornece provas. O whatsapp tem muito dados sobre os usuários, mas é pouco provável que eles compartilham esses dados com outro governo. No Caso, Meta não teria absolutamente nada a ganhar com isso.

I believe Lula and his government appreciates anything that reduces the influence of the US.

Vielen dank fürs nachschauen! das hat mich auch interessiert.

ich finde Plattenbauten eigentlich überhaupt nicht schlecht. Sie könnten eine ziemlich Gute Lebensqualität bieten wären sie nicht so verwahrlost/gesellschaftlich abgelehnt.

Das Meme wäre denke ich genauer, wenn es Gefängnisse zeigen würde

meine Vermutung ist dass Mastodon eben halt Niche bleibt. Es ist echt erstaunlich wie wenigen Menschen es etwas wert ist, auf einer werbefreien, nicht profitinteressierten Plattform zu sein. Aber ich weiß tatsächlich nicht wie die Leute da von Bluesky denken. Deren Ansatz ist ja auch dezentral, nur haben sie ein anderes Protokoll, was nicht ohne weiteres mit dem Activitypub funktioniert.

ja, sorry, aber dieser Umganston ist nun wirklich besser in Echokammern aufgehoben. Leute haben ja nicht nur inhaltlich Probleme mit diesen Instanzen, sie sind einfach auch extrem unfreundlich/toxisch

Happy birthday!

So why do men look for guidance on how to be masculine? Why is it even appealing to be masculine? I believe it has little to do with the characteristics themselves (which keep changing and are hard to specify), I believe boys and young men aspire to be masculine because of the benefits you receive when you conform to these ideals. The more masculine you are, the more respect society pays you, you’ll have more authority, people will find you more sexually attractive. All of these things are universally desirable, so young men will certainly want all of these things. So any kind of ‘guidance’ on masculinity, even if it is positive and affirmative, isn’t a means for people to find out who they are, and instead it maintains a system in which men (also women, if we speak more broadly about patriarchy) are made to conform to gender norms.

This performance is a huge burden for me, and also for so many other people. I do very poorly, and because of that, I am not as well respected. My life would be way better if this sort of pressure didn’t exist. It makes no sense to me that I have to fulfill a specific societal role because of the gender I was born into. So I’d say yes, it very much means that performing a gender is inauthentic for a lot of people.

Gender performance isn’t something you fake, like in a theater, it’s more something you do like performing in a sport.

I really like the analogy because it implies something that also happens in reality: it is competitive. You’re seen as inferior if you aren’t good at it. Which is a huge, huge problem

But you need some “starting direction” because yourself is usually still a kid.

I think it is a fair point. But masculinity (however you define it) should not be a default, and it should not be specifically encouraged for boys to aspire to. Like, I understand the need for role models, but why is masculinity relevant here?

But the goal of most trans people is being recognized as their identified gender, without stating it, also called passing.

I think the desire of a lot of men (trans or not) to conform to gender norms is not because we genuinely enjoy being masculine, it is rather because we enjoy more respect when we conform to these gender roles. Being “less of a man” sucks because people treat you as inferior. So we are inclined to conform. I am not trans but I can imagine that some feel a higher need to “prove” their masculinity because they are constantly invalidated.

This is illustrated by calling Margaret Thatcher an honorary man instead of a masculine woman.

The author is quoting here, he didn’t say that himself:

Josh Hawley, who thinks the left is waging a war on our Masculine Virtues, defines those virtues as “courage, independence, and assertiveness,” presumably qualities that women aren’t meant to have—or if they do possess them, it simply means they’re Manly women (just as Thatcher becomes an honorary man in Mansfield’s formulation)

Society has gone far in expanding women’s possibilities, but the traditional roles for men have not really been changed, so they don’t fit into this new environment. This leads to a lot of confusion, to where we have cis men struggling to perform their gender and looking for help.

I don’t think anybody should ever “perform” a gender! As soon as it becomes a performance, it is unauthentic to the person they truly are, and needs to be deconstructed. The don’t need instructions on how to ‘perform’ a gender, they need instructions on how to free themselves from these expectations.

In this case I would argue that the Author would approach a trans man, who is asking how to be a man

There is nothing a trans man has to do in order to be a man. They are a man. There is nothing that could possibly make them less of a man. No instructions needed. Just be authentic to yourself.

no matter how positively you define a gender role, it will negatively impact those who struggle with conforming to said roles. So I say it is preferable to define masculinity (or gender in general) without any value judgement.

of course it shouldn’t! but the problems arise when it becomes some sort of pressure to conform to. A man likes working out, look jacked and have a well combed beard? If he’s happy in his body, that is awesome! doesn’t mean we should make a role model out of him and encourage others to be like that to. Because a man who wears dresses, knits and is a huge nerd about make-up is equally worthy of feeling happy about himself. If we make any kind of masculinity more ‘positive’ than the other, we run into problems

Ich fand das viel schneller so in der Flasche, kann man einfach schüttlen, man braucht keinen Löffel, und muss nicht jedes mal das Pulver rausholen.

you left out the “positive” in your analogy:

trans, non-binary people only need to have a satisfying, meaningful life without a vision of positive masculinity, femininity, or gender Identity

Of course it makes sense to have a concept of these things, but the point is that it is not helpful to define these things with positive or negative values, but rather to look consider these things independent from one another.

I wholeheartedly agree. I don’t believe there is such a thing as a “good masculinity” in the same way there isn’t any “good femininity”. Gender roles don’t need to be redefined, they should be overcome.