I have been propositioned by swingers quite a bit. It’s to the point that if a couple is nice to me, I start getting suspicious. This has happened with acquaintances, long-time friends, people I’ve met at a party, co-workers, and even strangers at the beach. Three times that I can remember off the top of my head, they propositioned me and my girlfriend at the time (separate girls many years apart). Is this a normal thing? What about me could make me attractive to swinger couples?
I’m a cis-gendered straight male. As far as physical attractiveness, I would say I’m slightly above average based on what women have told me and how they treat me.
When I was late teens and early twenties, I kept getting propositioned by gay guys. It started to bother me - I’ve never been in any way homophobic, but I’ve also never been attracted to men - and I started to worry that there was some vibe I gave off that made people think I was gay.
Then I mentioned it to a gay guy who I knew, and he said that the vibe I give off is of someone who isn’t judgemental and who wouldn’t react badly to being asked. Maybe there’s something similar or analogous to your situation.
Edit: propositioned, not preposition
Maybe stop wearing that 🍍 shirt.
My buddy got a pineapple tattooed on his arm that appears upside down when his arm hangs down. He was not aware of the meaning it carried. 😂
Oh man, I totally understand the humor in that, lol! You should post what it means so that others in the thread will know like we both know!
Had it affected the way he is treated by others?
Don’t think so. I just think he’s had some swingers hit him up thinking he’s into it. He thinks it’s pretty funny now.
If you look at the dudes house he’s got pineapples everywhere, like art pieces and stuff, so it’s pretty on brand for him.
Now that he knows:
Did you have a question, sir?
An upside-down pineapple specifically signals that someone is a swinger or is looking for swinger parties. This association likely stems from the fruit’s historical connotations of wealth and welcome, evolving into a discreet way for swingers to identify each other in public or at events. Displaying a pineapple, especially upside down, can indicate an invitation to join in on swinging activities or parties
TIL
But … but my grandma’s specialty was pineapple upside-down cake??
Didn’t you think it was weird, that she would go to “play golf”, but never bring any clubs?
She had a magnet on her fridge that said “I’m done with love. Fortunately there’s still sex”
lmao I’m also remembering she had another one that said “Sex is my favorite sport. It’s free, it’s fun, and you don’t need special shoes”
Grandma!
That’s funny …I have a ton of pineapple clothes
Oh my god, I have a pineapple shirt, love pointing it out to people because I find it exciting. I just like it because I think it’s silly (I have a lobster shirt too). This explains some things.
What does the lobster shirt mean?
Butt stuff
That I like wearing silly collared button up shirts? I also have a white shirt with tiny tiny black skulls on it.
Normal, but not common.
You’re probably hot and cool.
I’ve asked people to join threesomes before, and I ask hot and cool people with style.
I also suspect that if you’re above average in looks to the point that not only are you aware of it but people have regularly commented on it, you’re probably smoking hot or at least attractive with great style.
congrats!
I’ve asked people to join threesomes before, and I ask hot and cool people with style.
I first read that as you stylishly asking people to have a 3-way.
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Hey good lookin’, wanna bang?
Haha, yea, unintentional but fairly accurate.
I absolutely love that character-people-drawing
There’s a word for that I don’t know?
Type-doodle?
They’re called kaomoji, like emoji. In Japanese, emoji means “image-letters” and kaomoji means “face-letters.” The English word for them is probably emoticons, but that more refers to things like :-) and xD. Kaomoji can be called “Japanese emoticons.”
If you have an Android phone, your keyboard has built-in kaomoji ヾ( ͝° ͜ʖ͡°)ノ♪. You can access them by opening up the emoji panel at the bottom left, then tapping the “:-)” button at the bottom right, which contains some western emoticons but many categories of kaomoji
Talk about TIL.(+_+)
Fascinating.＼(°o°)／
Thank you.( ´◡‿ゝ◡`)
I was today years old when I learned that that is a feature in my phone keyboard (✷‿✷)
Thanks, kind stranger
At your service (￣^￣)ゞ
#humblebrag
This is not a humblebrag. This is overt, and hence infinitely more respectable than a humblebrag.
It’s 2024, people are more open minded to things that aren’t cis monogamous relationships, and you may just be seeing the results of that as a “slightly” above average attractive man.
P.s. you might be in the sweet spot of attractive. Better looking than most, but still approachable. It takes balls to ask a George Clooney type for a 4 way.
It’s 2024, people are more open minded to things that aren’t cis monogamous relationships,
This has been going on since like 2006.
you might be in the sweet spot of attractive. Better looking than most, but still approachable.
I think this might be it. I’ve had friends that meet several women every time they go out, so I know they’re seen as attractive. I have never received the type of attention they have, but I have had ex partners, friends, and acquaintances give me respectful compliments.
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I mean that’s actually right on point for biblically founded ideologies. Historically in the judeo-christian faith. It is expected that you were to take over the marriage of your brother if your brother died.
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Pssshhhhh…George Clooney…the smug bastard.
This happens to me a lot and the reason I think it does is because I’m good looking enough that the woman could potentially get herself in the mindset that I’m attractive but not so good looking or masculine that I intimidate her existing boyfriend. I’m in that sweet spot of approachable non-judgmental, in decent shape, good attitude, kinky predilections, and I can make people laugh.
I have been approached double digits number of times which led me down the same thought path as you.
I have been approached double digits number of times which led me down the same thought path as you.
Yess, right‽ It’s odd. I was like, “What is going on??” I think you might be on the ball. I’m attractive enough for the woman, but not too attractive to intimidate the man. Also, thinking about what people have said, I now remember that I asked a gay guy that was into kink about it. He said that my initial presentation is that I look non-judgmental and down for whatever. Basically, I seem like someone that could possibly be interested in it, but would be chill about it if I wasn’t.
We’re low risk targets lol
For me it’s happened twice overtly and I suspect once that didn’t become an explicit request. I’m vocally monogamous, I’m not very social, and I’m still kinda young so I feel like those numbers are pretty high. For me I feel like it’s how I present myself and act, which is pretty stereotypically “queer.” Once that gets picked up on by other couples I think they seem more interested.
Ooh! This might have something to do with it. I don’t make any effort to be extra masculine (a bro). And, if I feel like doing something feminine, I do it. Sometimes I do something feminine just to prove a point.
Disclaimer: I’m using masculine and feminine stereotypes prescribed by dominant hetero-normative culture. I don’t really believe in those things like that.
That’s a good way of putting it! I normally act without regard for perceptions of masculinity or femininity and I feel like that’s appealing for couples looking for a third.
What about me could make me attractive to swinger couples?
Probably
As far as physical attractiveness, I would say I’m slightly above average based on what women have told me and how they treat me.
Although, I was considered handsome as a younger man, and I’ve never been propositioned by swingers. I guess my attitude might have had something to do with that. I was a bad boy, and generally trouble. I did get propositioned by gay men a lot. Idk what’s up with that.
Interesting. Just as a single datapoint, I have been well above average of attractiveness some parts of my life for women. Have never been proposed this. Guess how males perceive you is also important. I have been approached by gay men few times. No conclusions I can make :)
Donald from Benidorm would like to - know your location
It wasn’t unusual when I used to go out when I was younger. I don’t really know why people would ask me, or, rather, what made people think it was OK to ask me. I did take them up on it once in a while.
Guy came here to brag about his bodycount.
