Enjoy this thought poison that’s been with me for a long time:
WARNING: THOUGHT POISON
It’s a bitter truth that, in the end, your intentions don’t matter. Neither does your pain, your past, or the reasons behind what you did. No one cares about the context or the quiet wars you fought alone. All that remains is how others saw you. Their perception becomes your truth—your legacy—no matter how far it is from who you really were—or tried to be.
If you make yourself irreplaceable you can’t get promoted.
Everyone always has a plan until they get punched in the face.Everything in moderation.
Work smarter, not harder.
Yay Disney cartoons!
It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not a weakness, that is life.
I find that this is particularly difficult for conservative, “pull yourself up from your bootstraps” types to understand. Some people think poor people, or those who have fallen into misfortune, were makers of their own tragedy. While it may sometimes be the case, I believe that more often than not, these people were just unlucky enough to born at the wrong place, at the wrong time, into the wrong family, neighbourhood, or country.
There are poor people inventing incredible things every day, but nobody around them has the power nor connections to make anything out of it. I watched a video of people who made a bike out of wood that could carry half a tonne, down an unpaved road at relatively high speeds, while metal bikes in developed countries have ratings for people under 150kg. But because those poor bike-makers were born where they were and had to toil in order to survive, day in and day out, there was never enough time for them for make their inventions a product to be produced and sold to the masses. Yet somewhere, there’s a conservative prick saying these people are lazy or aren’t smart.
First thought that came to me as well. Thank You Captain Picard…
This could have also been said by any speedrunner in a game with even a single RNG event.
In my language it goes : “Alone you go faster, together you go further”.
I like that one!
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Narcissist: Yes. Yes. And, Yes. LOUD NOISES ensue
I call it The Subtle Art of Shutting the Fuck Up.
If more people on this planet would make these considerations we would all be so much better for it.
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As long as we keep trying!
I’ve found that every time, the less I speak, the wiser I sound. And I don’t mean that in the “better to stay silent and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt” sense—though that’s true too.
I’ve gotten far more mileage and respect by letting others dominate conversations, then dropping one or two sharp questions or comments that show I’ve been paying close attention and actually understand what’s going on. That says more than any deep dive into minutiae ever could—especially when those tangents usually reveal more about what I don’t know than what I do.
I just started a new job, and the kickoff meeting was today. I put that strategy to use—barely said a word for 45 minutes. I probably looked like a dud hire. But by the end I think I came off as the smartest motherfucker in the room. I doubt I actually was—I’m probably the only person there without a four-year degree—but perception is a hell of a thing.
Having had to work with people, manage people, hire and fire people. I would say that having a higher education does not equate to a persons level of smartness, knowledge, or intelligence in any reasonable way.
Maybe, but I figure if every single one of them has a degree, the odds have to be in their favor that at least one of them is smarter than me. And if not, well I just proved how dumb I am by thinking that. QED.
That said, you’re right, too many places hold that degree in too high esteem. It wasn’t important for the first twenty to twenty-five years of my career, but now I’m finding it really puts a ceiling on how far I can go. I’m working under tech leads who have fifteen years less experience than I do. Have to see if I can get hired internal from my contract (which takes special waivers for non-degreed folks) and then advance internally.
It was so bad, when my last contract ended, I had two managers invite me to apply for openings with them and my resume was auto-rejected by their hiring system.
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i really wish it didn’t
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no time like the present
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I come to ask myself these questions more and more. However, people thinking I’m dull and uninteresting is a downside… or is it?
“It’s not your fault, but it is your problem.”
I honestly love and repeat this line way too much
Just because you weren’t the cause doesn’t mean it isn’t something you need to worry about/fix. I learned this one from my high school English teacher when a student was late and tried to get out of it by blaming traffic lol. The traffic was not their fault, but it ended up being their problem.
There’s a variation of this that I like better: “It’s not your fault but it is your responsibility.”
Framing it this way shifts the tone from passive to active; you have a problem, but you take responsibility. It also helps the responsible party set themself up for correcting the behavior in the future. Saying you’re late because of traffic and accepting the consequences is fine, but recognizing that you need to leave earlier to accommodate traffic is better.
I had a teacher who would ask for an explanation, not an excuse. If the explanation started to place blame on someone or something else, he’d just shake his head and say “no excuses.”
“It is possible to make no mistakes and still lose. That is not weakness. That is life.”
-Captain Jean-Luc Picard
It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it
Unfortunately, too many people have been trained to reject ideas or thoughts without first thinking them through. Many simply react to whatever word, expression, or concept triggers them without giving the rest a second thought. For example a brilliant idea can be presented online, but if one word is out of place, the usage of that word will debated instead of the idea.
Oh my god, 100% Read a post about it on r/196 a while ago, went something like “It’s important to have discussions about things like cannibalism because arguments like «it’s just gross/bad/unnatural» have been used to condemn homosexuality and the like”
I’m not saying I would murder someone to try human, but I would go to the store to try longpork
If a person said “I’ll kill myself and you can eat me afterwards” and they were eaten, what would be wrong about eating them? We eat animals every day. Humans are animals. What’s ethically wrong with eating them?
Of course, if it turned into a capitalistic venture, that would be a completely different discussion: how would you know the human meat were sourced by voluntary deaths? Once there’s money involved, things get very tricky.
Every single disease that might be present in human meat is 100% capable of infecting humans, which is not at all the case for non-human meat.
Even if you properly cook the meat, things like prions can still remain.
I suspect that’s probably one of the reasons why the tabu against cannibalism is so widespread: from a health point of view human meat is a lot more likely to make you sick than non-human meat.
Prions can exist in any meat and are incredibly difficult to destroy.
The World Health Organization recommends any of the following three procedures for the sterilization of all heat-resistant surgical instruments to ensure that they are not contaminated with prions:
- Immerse in 1N sodium hydroxide and place in a gravity-displacement autoclave at 121 °C for 30 minutes; clean; rinse in water; and then perform routine sterilization processes.
- Immerse in 1N sodium hypochlorite (20,000 parts per million available chlorine) for 1 hour; transfer instruments to water; heat in a gravity-displacement autoclave at 121 °C for 1 hour; clean; and then perform routine sterilization processes.
- Immerse in 1N sodium hydroxide or sodium hypochlorite (20,000 parts per million available chlorine) for 1 hour; remove and rinse in water, then transfer to an open pan and heat in a gravity-displacement (121 °C) or in a porous-load (134 °C) autoclave for 1 hour; clean; and then perform routine sterilization processes.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prion#Sterilization
From a health point of view human meat is a lot more likely to make you sick than non-human meat
That’s a good argument. Many people seem to have a kneejerk response to eating human meat though, which I’m not sure comes from that knowledge.
I think people are mainly driver by the tabu against eating human meat rather than any kind of proper thinking about it, but the tabu itself probably came to be because people kept getting sick when they ate human meat but not when they ate other meats.
You see a lot of that kind of thing in other tabus, for example the ones against incest (inbreeding tends to produce offspring with health problems) or handling feces (because the bacteria in feces tend to cause disease much more than the bacteria in things like dirt).
That is an interesting correlation I hadn’t thought about. Thank you. You might be onto something there.
I love this! And if you find yourself afraid to even entertain an idea, perhaps you’re afraid that you’ll find it convincing and accept it. We should WANT to be convinced, because that means the different idea holds more merit than our current belief!
The major problem—one of the major problems, for there are several—one of the many major problems with governing people is that of whom you get to do it; or rather of who manages to get people to let them do it to them.
To summarize: it is a well-known fact that those people who must want to rule people are, ipso facto, those least suited to do it.
To summarize the summary: anyone who is capable of getting themselves made President should on no account be allowed to do the job.Douglas Adams, The Restaurant at the End of the Universe
He may or may not have known it, but he was paraphrasing a fundamental rule of the Baha’i Faith.
I’m not sure the baha’i faith knew they were quoting Douglas Adams.
‘Be Kind; Everyone You Meet is Fighting a Hard Battle’
Sometimes that grumpy old man really is just having a bad day.
I think about that one often. It’s too easy to dismiss people because their attitudes don’t line up with our personal ideals, but even those people have some internal struggle going on. We all do. Not that it ever justifies terrible behavior, but it does warrant consideration.
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There’s this quote attributed to Rabbi Yisrael Salanter:
When I was a young man, I wanted to change the world. I found it was difficult to change the world, so I tried to change my nation. When I found I couldn’t change the nation, I began to focus on my town. I couldn’t change the town and as an older man, I tried to change my family.
Now, as an old man, I realize the only thing I can change is myself, and suddenly I realize that if long ago I had changed myself, I could have made an impact on my family. My family and I could have made an impact on our town. Their impact could have changed the nation and I could indeed have changed the world.
There are two lessons here. First - the best way to affect meaningful change is to start local. Rather than spending a lot of time agonizing over national politics, get involved in your community - your neighborhood, your town, your apartment building, even just the house you share with your family. Your community will take better care of you and the other people that you care about than any national government ever will.
Second - ultimately the only person whose behavior you can change is your own. Don’t be too harsh with other people when they don’t behave the way that you believe they should. Be a more stringent judge of your own behavior.
But temper that with this:
Whatever you do, don’t congratulate yourself too much. Or berate yourself too much either.
Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else’s.
Choosing means losing a little, said by a teacher in highschool when I was struggling to decide what to do after I’d graduate, still remember it 12 years later
It’s opportunity costs all the way down, baby!
Oh that is really, really good. Filing it away.
Art should comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable.
Almost every horrific thing that humans engage in stems from fear.
… and the rest, greed.
Greed stems from fear if you really stop to think about it.
