We met like four years ago and have gotten to know each other since then. We talk about our lives, work, struggles, relationships, video games, music, et cetera. Sometimes, though, I feel like this friendship shouldn’t exist because people may find it strange that I am friends with someone 14 years older than me. What do you think?
I didn’t even realize this was a thing. We can’t be friends with older people now?
I mean if it’s not sexual and you’re just buddies I’m not where the problem is.
Perfectly respectable even if it is sexual. Just about fits “half your [his] age +7” but that guideline matters much less once the younger party is over 25 anyway.
you’ve been reverse catfished by busty petite asian girl 2 years younger than you.
Why wouldn’t this be fine? You met at 23. It’s not like you were groomed from childhood. Strangers on the Internet cannot validate your relationship with this man. Only you know the details that can inform the decision you have made to befriend him.
Please consider how much credence you give to the opinions of others, especially considering that you feel as though your friendship shouldn’t exist at times for absolute nonsense reasons.
Wait a minute. Did I just convince you it’s all fine? Don’t listen to me. I know nothing. Stop listening to strangers about things they don’t understand and think for yourself. You got this.
Who says you can only be friends with people your own age? That’s just dumb.
When you go to school all your friends are there same age because those are the people you are around all day. But once you get older into work life and such that changes. I think it’s pretty normal to have friends which are many years older or younger as an adult. I wouldn’t mind, be happy that you have such a good friend!
I’m 38m and I’m friends with 2 women that are about 20 or 21 so I don’t see the problem.
Sorry, but that actually is kinda weird and I’d consider concerning. By all means your relationship may be “fine” on the surface but it’s in the realms of potential grooming dynamics.
I’m sure due to Lemmy’s vacuum chamber my opinion is likely going to be unpopular here.
Lol grooming a 21yo?!?? Do you even hear yourself? Girl can drink but has so little agency she can be groomed?
Can’t blame Lemmy just cuz u have shit opinions.
Lmfao. Clown
Yikes, drinking = absolute maturity to you? That’s your level of being able to consent and be of age?
Check yourself.
Lmfao your reading comprehension is shit if that’s what you think I said. On what planet is a 21 not able to act like her own adult self without some asshole like you thinking she’s a fragile little creature. Grow up and get over your Disney white knight fantasy you utter child.
Imagine not being able to have an argument without insulting the other party. How childish of you. Maybe you should actually reflect on how much of a child you are.
Always the angry keyboard warriors that think everyone else is the thing they really are. Grow up and learn that people all don’t think like you you Disney White Knight keyboard warrior child.
I’m married and and the 2 young women are lesbians and are in a relationship together. There is no grooming of any kind going on. We just enjoy talking. Not every interaction between men and women has to be sexual and it’s gross you think that it does.
More context changes the story. I didn’t speak on absolutes and in your statement of given context, I’ll stand by mine.
With that, it’s fine.
And yes, I believe looking at the first picture you painted, the public should errr on the side of caution and questioning. By all means, not drive in ends but choose to question things at the least.
And no I didn’t sexualise the girls I put it on the male in that power dynamic. You came to a conclusion just as quick as I did, kinda making it look like you wanted to bait someone into that. Or more so, looking for others to try justify your actions.
I wasn’t doing either of those things. I added my comment because it is similar to the op and you 100% did make my comment sexual simply because of the genders involved. My comment did not require any extra context until you tried to make it seem like I was an evil sexual predator, just itching to trick a younger person into having sex with me which says more about you than it does me.
