• Letstakealook@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    I know this is likely fake, but I have gotten that reaction from people. Folks really find it strange when you don’t have social media. The times it really sucks is when they think you’re lying and just don’t want to add them.

    • ChexMax@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      It’s about safety for me. Going on a date with someone is such a gamble. If they have zero social media presence, that’s outside of what’s normal. Anything outside of normal social expectations is a safety red flag to me, because you immediately become less predictable to me. I don’t want to be alone with someone I don’t really know who is unpredictable. I’m just trying not to get murdered.

  • Stern@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Folks wanna know what they’re getting into. Your social media feeds are an easy indicator. Your twitter all retweets of Andrew Tate? Facebook filled with pics of you dressed up like a leather dog? Truth social? Concerning for many women.

      • tryptaminev 🇵🇸 🇺🇦 🇪🇺@feddit.de
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        1 year ago

        Well, it is not a court. But frankly i wouldn’t want to be with someone, who cannot meet a couple times and develop an understanding of other people by actually talking and listening to them.

        I also thinks this plays a role as to why so many relationships fail today. People have unlearned to build experience and trust their instincts, looking for preconceptions instead.

    • lunarul@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      You don’t need to also fake post what others post. Just have an account, you don’t need to ever post on it and if you do post you can keep it visible to friends only. I haven’t posted anything on Facebook for years, but that account is the only way some friends and relatives can reach me (I moved abroad, so phone is not an option).

    • nycki@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      1 year ago

      This, for real. I’m autistic but I’ve learned to mask it by showing normies what they expect to see and it makes things so much easier. Remember, reception matters more than intention.

  • Corkyskog@sh.itjust.works
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    1 year ago

    NGL if you have a flip phone now, you’re either a contract killer, a drug dealer and or a stage 5 weirdo.

  • Crashumbc@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    1 year ago

    While like others have said this is probably fake.

    That said, there is a middle ground. Any one refusing to use ANY social media probably has issues…

    Those acting like this is normal, would give someone who refuses to have a cell phone weird looks or what about any phone at all?

    For people refusing to use LinkedIn (or similar), that’s the same as refusing to have a resume pre Internet

    Don’t expect society to bend to you, you’re NOT special.

    • tryptaminev 🇵🇸 🇺🇦 🇪🇺@feddit.de
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      1 year ago

      Any one refusing to use ANY social media probably has issues…

      And this is where we went wrong. Why should it be the expected default, to share your private data with some corportation doing god knows what with it, among other things selling it to third companies that you do not know, which then target you with political advertising aimed at undermining democracy in your country?

      Those acting like this is normal, would give someone who refuses to have a cell phone weird looks or what about any phone at all?

      This is entirely different. The issue with social media is not, that it provides a means to reach you. The issue is that you sell all your private data, that includes and allows for information on highly sensitive topics such as your sexual orientation and physical and mental health. Having a phone number provides none of this. The worst issues with phones is scam calls targeting elders on landlines. And how do they do that? because some other company aggregated the data and sold it, so the scammers can target postal codes with higher rates of old and vulnerable people.

      So all in all this also sounds like a particularly american problem, where little culture around data protection and a higher demand for public exposure exists and people are used to prostitution of their values, principles and civil rights.

    • AlfredEinstein@lemmy.world
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      1 year ago

      Her: “What’s Lemmy?”

      Me: “It’s like if 500 nerds emulated the Reddit experience of 2011.”

      Her: (visibly drying)

        • SpookyUnderwear@eviltoast.orgEnglish
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          1 year ago

          Let’s say you’ve been a bad girl. Let’s say, hypothetically, you’ve been a naughty girl even. Ok, and if you were a naughty girl, you would be my dirty little slut right? Then hypothetically speaking, you would be my little cumslut. Now, let’s say you’re also daddy’s girl.

          Now that we have established that you are both a bad girl and daddy’s girl, I believe you’d agree with me when I say that you deserve a spanking. Am I not correct? A bad girl deserves a spanking, and as I am daddy, you are my girl, so I am the one who must provide punishment.