• TheFunkyMonk@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    I decided to stop making excuses a few years ago and just say when I’m not feeling socially up to it or there are too many people. Positive reactions literally across the board, haven’t had a single weird conversation. I’d recommend it.

  • weker01@feddit.de
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    5 months ago

    That’s just insecure communication. Nothing to do with beeing introverted.

    In most situations it’s easier to clearly and honestly communicate ones needs. People that take offense to confident and honest communication should be avoided anyway.

    • noobnarski@feddit.de
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      5 months ago

      I have (had) a few friends who communicate like this and its just annoying and exhausting. I am never planning anything again with them involved because they cannot state if they actually will or want to come.

      • meowMix2525@lemm.ee
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        5 months ago

        I can’t stand when people do this. It’s beyond frustrating when I’ve put effort into a relationship and just get this in return. Like I would literally drop everything for you at a moment’s notice and you can’t even commit to meeting up next week or have the decency to be honest with me so I don’t waste my time preparing for you and can make other plans.

        What the actual fuck, like am I doing something wrong or did it become okay at some point to treat your friends like this?? Cause it makes me feel like shit when it happens and it happens way too often.

        • weker01@feddit.de
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          5 months ago

          Did you talk to them about how it makes you feel? I would suggest doing that with the caviate that you should stay with your feelings and not be accusatory. Even though I know it is hard to do.