• Gurei@sh.itjust.works
    38·
    2 days ago

    "As we embraced, I moved my hand from his firm buttocks up along his back, eager to feel more of that fit body.

    I touch a surgery scar and he winces, both in pain, and memory of his true motivation for being here this night morning.

    I would not live to see my shareholders meeting."

  • 1984@lemmy.today
    222·
    2 days ago

    Love is antidote to hate, but that doesn’t mean we should love people who abuse us.

    Best I can do is try and remember what it’s like to have the mindset of wanting everything for myself, and seeing others as competitors / resources to get what I want. That’s the consciousness these people have, and it’s something most of us recognize.

    • Smoogs@lemmy.world
      3·
      2 days ago

      Yes the whole thing smacks of battered wife syndrome where the victim in the relationship is driven to violence as the only answer as they cannot escape so they take matters into their own hand because after many cycles of abuse getting worse and worse and no one in law enforcement providing any actual real help, she goes and shoots the abusive husband. And that dialog is the type of cyclic romance honeymoon phase of what an abuser does to their victim.

      • 1984@lemmy.today
        24·
        2 days ago

        I think your battered wife example is much worse than having as asshole ceo at work. Most people can change jobs, but there are people who can’t leave relationships because of fear of death or losing their children.

        • Smoogs@lemmy.world
          3·
          18 hours ago

          Not for disagreeing in comparing circumstances (and I don’t believe this is about jobs btw) but just to point out about jobs you’re mentioning : people might not leave a job because they can’t afford to or have no other option.

          And in the case of health coverage which is what I believe this is actually about considering the shooter CEO was regarding health coverage, a victim would have no such option. Their only option is to die with or without the coverage.

          Refusing coverage just to watch a person die on the street is abuse. It’s manipulative. And it should be considered slaughter. It shouldn’t be ignored. It should not be reduced. It should not be silenced.

          This type of manipulation comes from the same place. And it works because of the same reason. I’m comparing manipulator to manipulator tactics and how effective it can be on a victim in either situation.

          And the fear to leave can cover much bigger scope than just DV when it comes to following the landmarks on how this type of manipulation works.

          The other problem is people tend to brush off a victim as if they have so many options and you’re doing the exact same here by comparing how much worse something else is which is not what the comparison is about.

          See it’s interesting you picked that to reduce everyone else’s situation when reduction is a problem in and of itself around how society treats victims of domestic violence and bullying.

          It’s disingenuous to pick a side and then echo the exact systematic society problem of minimizing a victim situation against victims just cuz you think one is worse than the other.

          Both things can be wrong.

          There is no quota on what to care about here. Everyone who’s in a bad situation at the hands of a manipulator deserve to be safe.

          • 1984@lemmy.today
            1·
            14 hours ago

            Sure I agree, but the solution is probably to have a good national healthcare system funded by taxes, like in most countries. Why can’t America have that?