• Hegar@fedia.io
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    10 hours ago

    A patient I dealt with had schizophrenia and dementia, “but I’m a man, not a little girl with panties” was his counterargument to everything.

    You can only have one cigarette at a time because otherwise you lose them all and run out. “But I’m a man.”

    You know the doctor says your food needs to be cut up. “Do I look like a little girl to you?”

    That’s the communal cheese bowl, this is your plate. You can’t eat from the communal cheese bowl with a fork. “Do you see me wearing panties?”

    Whenever I hear people making these kind of gender essentialist arguments, they just sound pitiably out of touch with reality to me.

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      10 hours ago

      Have you asked him how often he thinks about wearing women’s underwear?

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        7 hours ago

        That’s potentially worthwhile with someone who is cognizant but just an asshole. For someone with dementia, there’s no point

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          6 hours ago

          I don’t know what it says about you if you do it deliberately but I think there’s a lot to say for asking the question anyways because his speech filters don’t work properly and he might not be able to censor himself.

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        8 hours ago

        In my head I made many cutting remarks. But the reality of this level of cognitive decline is like 90% miserably depressing and only like 10% infuriating. Plus he wouldn’t be capable of understanding the criticism anyway.