• SomeoneSomewhere@lemmy.nz
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    9 hours ago

    My only comment is that at least you only have to learn it once (or, well, thrice), not for any given conversation.

    He, she, or they works well enough for most circumstances. Do we really need to broaden it beyond that?

    Once pronouns become unique and personalised instead of generic, you lose the advantages of having them in the first place, and may as well refer to everyone by name every time. It’d be less confusing, especially if you’re re-using existing words as pronouns.

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      9 hours ago

      He, she, or they works well enough for most circumstances. Do we really need to broaden it beyond that?

      I would say probably not. I expect (and hope, I suppose) that things will sort themselves out more or less that way. We live in a time of great reconsideration of gender norms, and it’s not absurd to see experimentation in such a period. I use neopronouns (nounself style excluded) as a courtesy, because I understand it brings comfort to many who use them and it’s not much trouble simply to do so, but they/them is what I hope we all eventually settle on as standard for NB gender identities.

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          6 hours ago

          They/them is not used exclusively to refer to neuter things, so enbies not being gender neutral is irrelevant here. ‘They’ is a useful and pre-existing catch-all.

          • rxin@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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            6 hours ago

            they/them is what I hope we all eventually settle on as standard for NB gender identities.

            This part is the one I’m referring to. I’m not opposed to they/them — it’s good, but I don’t think it’s fair to reduce enbies to just “they/them”.

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              47 minutes ago

              … why?

              Is that any more absurd than “reducing males to he/him” or “reducing females to she/her”?

              It’s language, not a campaign medal. You don’t need a separate example for every instance.

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          7 hours ago

          Non-binary is a broad spectrum of identity. What you’re suggesting only works for identities like genderfluid or demi-gender people.

          I’m agender, which exists outside of the male-female binary (in which you are either one or the other). Agender and it’s derivatives, like gendervoid, are completely gender neutral. I only use they/them because it’s really difficult for the average person to not use a pronoun when referring to me, I very much prefer people using my name in place of one.