• Jo Miran@lemmy.ml
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    1 year ago

    I have been with wife almost thirty years. I wish it had occurred to me to ask this so many times before saying something. So many times.

    • edric@lemm.ee
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      1 year ago

      I agree. Having a natural tendency to want to solve a problem makes us want to fix it immediately but sometimes it’s not the answer, when they just want to vent or someone to listen.

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      1 year ago

      I ask my wife and kids if they need someone to help problem solve or just listen. It’s been a game changer.

      • SSFC KDT (MOVED)@mastodon.cloud
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        1 year ago

        @lgmjon64 @JoMiran and if it’s “just listen,” just go do something else and active listen because wtf is the fuckin point amirite

        Men bitch about things they want fixed. I don’t even know what the fuck is the point of bitching about something you *don’t* want fixed. If you don’t want it fixed why are you spending time and effort bitching about it?