• Jo Miran@lemmy.ml
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    11 months ago

    I have been with wife almost thirty years. I wish it had occurred to me to ask this so many times before saying something. So many times.

    • lgmjon64@lemmy.world
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      11 months ago

      I ask my wife and kids if they need someone to help problem solve or just listen. It’s been a game changer.

      • SSFC KDT (MOVED)@mastodon.cloud
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        11 months ago

        @lgmjon64 @JoMiran and if it’s “just listen,” just go do something else and active listen because wtf is the fuckin point amirite

        Men bitch about things they want fixed. I don’t even know what the fuck is the point of bitching about something you *don’t* want fixed. If you don’t want it fixed why are you spending time and effort bitching about it?

  • Cool Beance@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    11 months ago

    See, I get that this is a thing, but I don’t understand why you just want someone to listen. What does sitting here, looking you in the eye and opening my ears, specifically do to make you feel better about the problem you’re having?

    • gandalf_der_12te@feddit.de
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      11 months ago

      Speaking about something often automagically solves the problem, actually. Probably due to self-reflection. For this to work, however, you need to speak it out completely at least once.