Feel free to highlight people from both reality and fiction - and why they make a good role model.
Aragorn from the Lord of the Rings. Kiss your homies on the forehead, then stab a nazgul.
I read an article where the author explained how she felt so comfortable with all the men in LotR because of the healthy portrayal of masculinity.
I see Aragorn posted a lot in these threads. But its easy to be that hero when your enemy are orcs.
It says a lot that almost all of these are fictional.You have to see past the character and to the archetype. When I refer to these characters I mean from the books not the movies/shows, but Elrond, Aragorn, Faramir, Gandalf, Tom Bombadil, and many others are good role models. Tolkien also addresses men who seem heroic but are not, just because they are fighting bad guys doesn’t mean they are good guys, consider Feanor and Fingolfin, Saruman in the books is more or less like USSR and Nazi germany during the polish invasion more than allies.
Tolkien is nearly unmatched in writing male role models.