Yeah, transfem folks get the same sort of treatment whenever “male socialization” is brought up, as though somehow trans women are still really men because they were socialized to be men.

It’s hard to communicate generally while still being sensitive to the nuances.

I do think some behaviors can be influenced by social and cultural factors, and while this doesn’t prove the “male socialization” myth that transphobes appeal to is right, it is still a relevant factor in other contexts.

The cultural attitudes about gender can be like invisible walls that shape our social environment, it informs what we feel we can or can’t do, and while we all have to navigate that, its trans people who are forced to transgress those social boundaries and thus we should be familiar with them.

I agree the comment was probably well-intended, but I also understand how anything remotely close to implying sameness between trans men and cis women is ick.