Eh, the Twitter person can go fuck themselves. Both partners deserve emotional support and comfort. That’s what being in a partnership is about. Just because men are pigeonholed by toxic masculinity doesn’t mean we don’t need emotional validation.
You clearly do not know what that point is about. Good for you to never have had to be the emotional labourer for your partner. Doesn’t make the experience of those who ran into these type of people less legitimate.
This isn’t about showing emotion or empathy. The point is about a partner who expects you to handle their emotions for you. Examples how that looks in a relationship:
Passive aggressiveness: sabotaging the relationship without wanting to openly talk about issues.
Dishonest communication that leads to resentment: For example pretending you are fine when you are hurting.
Using your partner as a therapist: with issues like depression, expecting your partner to elevate your symptoms.
Unloading all social and relationship responsibilities onto your partner.
It’s in general the expectation that your partner somehow makes life work for you. It’s not about sharing emotions or caring for each other.
if i tried to comfort you about it, though, wouldn’t that just perpetuate and enable the problem?
…actually no, i can’t even joke about it. I’m sorry people left you feeling emotionally abandoned, bro. It’s not fair that you get put under this double standard. The fact is, everyone needs emotional labor. Another word for emotional labor is goddamn fucking empathy and SOME PEOPLE don’t want to show any toward men.
THOSE people don’t matter. The kind of woman who would look at you as a burden would, in fact, be a burden upon you.
You are worthy of love. You are worth the investment of psychological and emotional energy. You have value even above and beyond intrinsic value as a human being. And if you were here, I’d be taking us both out for tacos and/or ice cream right goddamn now.
Another word for emotional labor is goddamn fucking empathy and SOME PEOPLE don’t want to show any toward men.
The very people screaming the loudest about “toxic masculinity” being a problem in men, are invariably the ones imposing it the most fiercely upon men, as this woman is doing.
You have no idea what is meant with emotional labour. I wish people would at least try to look something up before just reading into it whatever they like. This comment section is unhinged.
I hate that I’m the second, and so aggressively that it’s hurt relationships before
Eh, the Twitter person can go fuck themselves. Both partners deserve emotional support and comfort. That’s what being in a partnership is about. Just because men are pigeonholed by toxic masculinity doesn’t mean we don’t need emotional validation.
You clearly do not know what that point is about. Good for you to never have had to be the emotional labourer for your partner. Doesn’t make the experience of those who ran into these type of people less legitimate.
It’s normal to be the second. Everyone has emotions. If your partner/ex can’t handle that, tell them to go date an AI robot.
This isn’t about showing emotion or empathy. The point is about a partner who expects you to handle their emotions for you. Examples how that looks in a relationship:
Passive aggressiveness: sabotaging the relationship without wanting to openly talk about issues.
Dishonest communication that leads to resentment: For example pretending you are fine when you are hurting.
Using your partner as a therapist: with issues like depression, expecting your partner to elevate your symptoms.
Unloading all social and relationship responsibilities onto your partner.
It’s in general the expectation that your partner somehow makes life work for you. It’s not about sharing emotions or caring for each other.
if i tried to comfort you about it, though, wouldn’t that just perpetuate and enable the problem?…actually no, i can’t even joke about it. I’m sorry people left you feeling emotionally abandoned, bro. It’s not fair that you get put under this double standard. The fact is, everyone needs emotional labor. Another word for emotional labor is goddamn fucking empathy and SOME PEOPLE don’t want to show any toward men.
THOSE people don’t matter. The kind of woman who would look at you as a burden would, in fact, be a burden upon you.
You are worthy of love. You are worth the investment of psychological and emotional energy. You have value even above and beyond intrinsic value as a human being. And if you were here, I’d be taking us both out for tacos and/or ice cream right goddamn now.
The very people screaming the loudest about “toxic masculinity” being a problem in men, are invariably the ones imposing it the most fiercely upon men, as this woman is doing.
You have no idea what is meant with emotional labour. I wish people would at least try to look something up before just reading into it whatever they like. This comment section is unhinged.