Ok, I have no idea why this bothers me and I don’t even know what to call it. My husband is a “come here” guy. Something he thinks is interesting and wants to show me - hey, come here! Nuclear apocalypse - hey, come here! Why the hell wont he just tell me why he wants me to get up, trudge to wherever he is, so that he can reveal the surprise like some sort of performative art ? I never know if it’s going to be legitimate, a disaster, or something stupid. The walk to wherever he is is insanely stressful because the whole time I’m running through all possible horrible scenarios (we’ve had a lot of issues at the house lately so I never know if I’m going to find water in the basement or raccoons in the attic or a hole in my foundation, or just him looking at a funny cat video). I’d rather he say “hey, babe, something is happening wherever/whatever, come see this.” Instead I have to have the whole performance and reveal and I fucking hate it. Anyone else know what I’m talking about or am I just mental ?
I had a very similar issue and absolutely do know what you are talking about. Those things can be very annoying, and it is hard to explain how bad it feels to people who did not experience it themselves.
My recommendation is to talk to your husband about it and explain to him that this behavior annoys you. You can also try to explain why, but in the end that should not matter. Might take several tries until he gets it, and then still a while to actually adjust his behavior. If that fails you can still look into counseling.