People treat dating apps as a filter, and think that they’ll only get people that match what they entered. So it becomes a wishlist for them. If they met a really great guy who happened to be short, sure they’d date him. But all other things being equal, would they prefer a tall guy to a short guy? Yes. All things aren’t equal of course, but other stuff is harder to quantify. There’s no “not an asshole” filter, for example.
The “dodged a bullet” idiom is well-meaning, but after a while, you feel like a soldier who survived storming the beach at Normandy, what with all of the bullets you dodged.
it’s sort of a toxic masculinity thing… they want to be shorter than the person they’re with…. male roles of protection, reaching high things and carrying heavy things they can’t carry….
my 5’10” ex dated a shorter man once, she said his obsession with her height was one thing that ruined it….
he hated tall guys, wanted to sleep on top of her like a human bed… just weird dumb stuff….
she also mentioned she liked that she could wear heels with me and not be taller than me… and we never got dressed up like that… she just needed the option or something.
but hey, i’ve never even met a woman as tall as me… it’s not such a big deal.
Yeah, that’s pretty weird. Like even if I weirdly wanted to sleep, like actually sleep, on top of another person, I’m fairly spectating I couldn’t. It would just be uncomfortable.
I love my height, would love to be even a couple inches taller, but the legit short guys I’ve been with did make me feel insecure because they were sort of fetishists, only one in a way I felt ok about; they NEEDED a woman taller than them the same way women do to guys.
What someone pointed out to me once though, was that maybe I was implementing my own bias and didn’t want to be with a guy so much taller than me because I’m not used to feeling short and it isn’t a good feeling to me. So even though my conscious mind thinks I’m irritated by tall men’s obsession with short women, and my daughters think I kind of robbed them of their potential height, it probably is an affirmative preference not just a default result.
such a weird world… i say, like what you like… don’t obsess or fetishize it…
i’ve dated some extra short women, they did marvel at my height but it was more of a novelty… standing on things to kiss kinda thing…. it is weird being someone’s “type” because of a couple key physical attributes.
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but almost all women seem really short to me… i usually don’t really notice at first.
I don’t get it. Is there a rotating 1kW laser mounted on my head that may decapitate a woman slightly taller then me I didn’t recognize all my life?!
People treat dating apps as a filter, and think that they’ll only get people that match what they entered. So it becomes a wishlist for them. If they met a really great guy who happened to be short, sure they’d date him. But all other things being equal, would they prefer a tall guy to a short guy? Yes. All things aren’t equal of course, but other stuff is harder to quantify. There’s no “not an asshole” filter, for example.
So what “If you’re not 6 feet tall, don’t bother” really means is “Hit me up anyway, we might click.”
No, it means ‘I’m a vapid person and you’re dodging a bullet by swiping left on me’.
Seriously, those people are a godsend. Thank you for telling me to stay far away lol I’d never want to be dating someone like that.
The “dodged a bullet” idiom is well-meaning, but after a while, you feel like a soldier who survived storming the beach at Normandy, what with all of the bullets you dodged.
I also put “I have a small dick” and no women want to reply to me.
1kW is too low
it’s sort of a toxic masculinity thing… they want to be shorter than the person they’re with…. male roles of protection, reaching high things and carrying heavy things they can’t carry….
my 5’10” ex dated a shorter man once, she said his obsession with her height was one thing that ruined it….
he hated tall guys, wanted to sleep on top of her like a human bed… just weird dumb stuff….
she also mentioned she liked that she could wear heels with me and not be taller than me… and we never got dressed up like that… she just needed the option or something.
but hey, i’ve never even met a woman as tall as me… it’s not such a big deal.
What.
Did he love the fact that she was taller than him or hate it?
Yeah, that’s pretty weird. Like even if I weirdly wanted to sleep, like actually sleep, on top of another person, I’m fairly spectating I couldn’t. It would just be uncomfortable.
he loved it… i guess she let him take a nap on her once as a joke, but then he wanted to do it all the time….
I love my height, would love to be even a couple inches taller, but the legit short guys I’ve been with did make me feel insecure because they were sort of fetishists, only one in a way I felt ok about; they NEEDED a woman taller than them the same way women do to guys.
What someone pointed out to me once though, was that maybe I was implementing my own bias and didn’t want to be with a guy so much taller than me because I’m not used to feeling short and it isn’t a good feeling to me. So even though my conscious mind thinks I’m irritated by tall men’s obsession with short women, and my daughters think I kind of robbed them of their potential height, it probably is an affirmative preference not just a default result.
such a weird world… i say, like what you like… don’t obsess or fetishize it…
i’ve dated some extra short women, they did marvel at my height but it was more of a novelty… standing on things to kiss kinda thing…. it is weird being someone’s “type” because of a couple key physical attributes.
…
but almost all women seem really short to me… i usually don’t really notice at first.
yeah It makes no sense.