At 22 I was already living on my own for 8 years, and fully independent financially. But go on I guess? At 25 I was already a licensed notary with my own practice. Again, you don’t get to decide what’s gross or not for other adults. 72 and dementia? If you don’t take care of yourself sure. But it’s also extreme weirdo behavior to wish unhappiness upon someone just because you’re judgy. Very bitter and sour. Definitely a blast to be around.

22 and 25 are “barely an adult”? In what world? Predator for pursuing a grown adult? Hmmm… and why do you assume he pursued me? I pursued him. Thank you for the weird condescension, it’s been 9 amazing years with no skeletons in the closet. As I’ve said, lay off the judgement, it ages you…

That’s when we started dating, not married. Plus even by that timeline it’s wrong, it’d be 22 & 53. There are people who find gay, trans, interracial, interreligious, poly, etc. relationships “weird and gross”. I don’t find any relationships between consenting adults weird and gross, because I know people have different wants, desires and comfort levels and my experience is not universal. Maybe try being less judgmental. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Your math is off. It was 25 and 56. And no, not at all. Why would I feel gross?

I don’t really feel anything. It’s just another piece of info. Doesn’t affect our marriage at all. 99% of the time I don’t even think about it.

Yeah. He’s really close with his dad. In the beginning he threw a fit. Ignored me, insulted me, trash talked me, etc. I just let him do his thing. Eventually he started being less hostile towards me, then even friendly. He fully came around once he was assured that we wouldn’t have any children. Now we’re amicable. Though him and I don’t hang out or chat in one on one settings.

Not at the moment. He’s extremely active both physically and mentally. We gym together 5 times a week, play sports, eat healthy, don’t smoke, don’t drink, don’t do drugs, love things such as chess, puzzles, math, crosswords for working out the cognitive muscles… I honestly never thought about plans after his death. I’ll deal with it when the time comes. I’ll manage. Who knows, I might even die first. I had same age friends already die…

I’d say so. I never felt condescension or anything like that in our communication. But admittedly I am very much a listener. I love listening to others, I’m not much of a talker myself. A person who can talk a lot and I just listen is very attractive to me. Plus I’ve always liked to surround myself with people more experienced / smarter than me. As my parents have always said: it’s better to be the fool between intellectuals than the intellectual between fools. I like growing and evolving beside someone who has already gone through it. “Experiencing” things with other inexperienced people (colloquially know as growing together) has never been my thing. I like experiencing things with people who have already gone through it. I like stability, I like a rock. I don’t like being with people similar to me, cause I feel like we always clash. I like being given advice and mentored sorta say. I like someone taking the lead. I don’t believe age gaps relationships are for everyone, because as you said some people prefer being more “peers” and at the same level. I’m the opposite. Even in regards to friends.

I discovered Lemmy and wanted to interact with some people but didn’t really have anything to post / comment on the main communities around here which seem very niche (technology, politics, Linux). So a Q&A seemed like the best way to go about it.

9 years.

No.

I don’t know really, or more specifically I’m not sure. What I do know if you want to talk about judges (both women and men) is that a lot of them are married and in open relationships (or just straight up cheating). Similar with doctors. There’s a saying that people are only as loyal as their options, and in professions seen as “powerful”, you have many options, since for many people power is attractive. It was part of the attraction for me, but I’m also in the same field of work (legal).

My parents didn’t have much of a reaction. They said if I like him that’s all, I’ll be the one to be with him not them. His parents are 82 & 87, they were excited for him to remarry. His son (38) was the one who reacted negatively, but he’s come around & now we’re amicable.

Wow, interesting question. Yes, I do. Justice in human society is based on fairness and morality. I believe outside of human society the concept also exists, though different motives and all; and it definitely doesn’t take the exact same form as human justice. For example I think outside of human society the main motive is the survival of the species - very primal, very basic. Though these behaviors vary from species to species.

Oh… I do label my axes. But even if I didn’t; why wait for the best when he could have me? hahaha.

Hahaha, thanks for the comic!

I think this is some reference but I don’t get it… axes as in x-y axis on a graph or axes as in the things you use to chop wood?

He’s a judge, he’s financially comfortable. But I’m a notary with my own practice, so I’m also financially comfortable on my own.