RiverGhost

So I gather this not about the hobbies themselves being attractive but about what’s attractive for a partner to have as a hobby, or even specifically a male partner? What was the question exactly?

A quick test for this is, are you good at making a good first impression or short time of friendship and then it kinda falls off with time? If yes, masking is likely in play.

Can confirm. This is my entire life.

Lucky me, I’ve never been ‘with it’.

I’m groaning so hard while feeling really happy at the same time, it hurts. Thanks.

My problem has always been that I find breathing too boring to ever manage to focus on it for any length of time.

Where I live the dog shampoo costs more than the human shampoo.

Or you mean the conditioner?

This is my problem, I am impulsive and silly enough to still say things, but the way they come out sometimes makes me want to die a little inside and stop being perceived forever.

Sometimes if I am not doing too badly I still can turn it around, where the very failure of delivery can on its own get the laughs (or groans). If I sort of stay with it long enough to express something like “yeah, that was bad wasn’t it? want more?”. But it does require a minimum of social aptitude like you said, which for me varies a lot.

The avocados I was used to in South America were really flavorful and I ate them raw. Now I’m in Europe and they’re tiny and bland, though I still eat them raw.

Fight swastikas with loss

I wanted to try that in my home town in the tropics but I observed that anything underground fills with water immediately and even overground structures end up suffering water damage that’s very resistant to most measures I’ve seen.

Still wondering what’s best for those kind of climates.

Wait, I’m not “young people”? (37)

I really enjoyed reading your story. It’s honest about your faults and kind to yourself at the same time. I hope I can find a way to see my own life in a similar way.

Yes, the mitochondria and all the other organelles. We’re mostly egg.

And people forget that we’re also the egg.

But like, a prism only reveals what was already inside that light beam.

My problem is that the "Can you do something about it?" is always unclear, I go back and forth until it consumes my thoughts.

This does sound like burnout, especially if lately is more than a couple of weeks. I’m sorry you’re going through this. But I’d absolutely recommend against pushing yourself. As I’ve painfully learned, none of this will get better by doing more, but by doing less, and you have to learn how to do less because it’s hard.

And you need help, some mental health professional that knows how to work with autistic patients. If not, there’s a risk people will give you productivity advice and this can be counterproductive and dangerous.

You might need meds. I did.

I pushed myself through several burn outs until my brain stopped working (I couldn’t think, my place could be burning and I wouldn’t have even tried to escape. My brain didn’t work). If it wasn’t for my partner I could have died.

But this happened at the end of many “small” burnouts that I pushed through. Each burnout made the next one worse.

The reason I pushed through was because like you, it felt like I was not able to stop without losing too much. For me, this ended up with long term consequences.

I would absolutely recommend finding a way to slow down, even if it costs. If you burn out completely your brain will simply force you to slow down. This cost is higher than you can imagine. Achieving my goals has definitely taken longer than if I had found a way to slow down by myself.

If you absolutely are unable to slow down at work (for example if you live in a country without sick leave where you can get fired anytime and your parents are truly awful), then you need to do less on your spare time. No productivity, no forcing yourself through hobbies, no trying to regulate or mask.

Do anything that takes no effort or expectations. Don’t try to regulate your time off, take naps as needed. Exercise is good, but you have to do it without goals or strict schedules. Keep yourself hydrated and fed. Take all the help if available, even if it feels temporarily less independent.

It feels like giving up, you’ll get FOMO, you’ll feel isolated and less independent, it sucks. You’ll wonder why it’s not getting better faster. But if your brain can recover a little, you will start slowly gravitating to some of the things you like. Even then, take it slowly and without expectations.

I’m continuously confused about why they think they are free, or at least uniquely free? What does the moon even have to do with that supposed freedom?

For the uninitiated, what does Dublin have to do with chickens? I searched but I just got restaurants from Ireland.