People will shit on crystals believers in one breath and tell people to ‘respect other’s religion’ in another or gloat about their MBTI assessment. The cognitive dissonance is unreal.

I don’t believe in either but at least I’m consistent. If you’re not, then you’re just finding an excuse to hate on a hobby that primarily attracts women.

This is the same thing that happens to anything that women likes: pumpkin spice lattes, uggs, horoscopes, tarot cards, rose, etc. It’s seen as trivial and stupid no matter how banal the average person’s interest are regardless of gender.

And if you make her go outside, that’s the death sentence for all three generations in your family

What is this shit meme format doing in 196

Zodiac sign haters are the same people as MBTI believers change my mind.

This greentext is probably fake, but as someone dealing with memory loss and brain fog, I feel that I need to speak up about the last line.

It’s jarring to see people comment on how saying ‘forgot two weeks later’ makes everything a lie. ‘Forget’ and ‘permanently forget’ are two different things. With memory loss, some memories can feel like a book that randomly checks out and checks into the library.

That’s a lot of words for ‘I’m privileged with good health and can’t empathize with people going through mental and physical illnesses’.

I don’t have AFRID, but I know people who do. Your delusional if you think it’s a choice and they can just decide to eat other things without wanting to throw up

This is this the same as telling people with depression to ‘just be happy’ or telling people with anxiety to ‘just calm down’. There is no ‘just eat the food’ with AFRID. The whole point is that they can’t.

The joke is that big trucks are just as frivolous as overpriced weddings, and both of these people are idiots.

So many people here who don’t know about PCOS or PCOS belly and actually think the woman in the picture is stupid.

Not saying it’s anyone’s job to do this, but bullying transphobes doesn’t deradicalize them.

I think there are a good amount of people who are on the fence who would be persuaded by the detailed argument in this comic. The thing that the author is trying to convince people of is subtle and invisible to most people.

How do you tell people that this invisible thing exists and that they might be the one perpetuating it without putting them off?

It’s like asking your well meaning friends not to use ‘retarded’ as an insult. Sure, they aren’t saying this to hurt disabled people, but they are unaware that it does. The best way to change their minds isn’t by saying ‘you’re offensive’ and decry their character. It’s by slowly and gently telling them that you know they don’t mean to, but this thing that they say hurts people.

I’m not saying that we need to walk on eggshells around every offensive person, I’m saying that slow drawn out explanations without directly criticizing people is what works.

I think you overestimate how open minded the average person is. People are quick to reject an argument when it doesn’t conform to their world views. This comic is long because it tries to address most doubts about it. It’s slow to get to the point to avoid triggering the visceral reaction some people have to feminist theories.

Although I agree that a tldr would be nice.

I just want to add to the conversation that part of the reason why male contraceptives haven’t been approved yet isn’t all because men are shying away from the burden of side effects from contraceptives. It’s because of how risk evaluations for medications in development work. The risk of pregnancy is severe pain, permanent scarring, death, and a myriad of post partum conditions that can become chronic. When women take contraceptives, they are averting themselves of this risk. When men take contraceptives, they are generally not averting themselves of any direct health risks (not including the consequences of fatherhood). It’s also easier to prevent the release of one egg with certainty than stopping millions of sperm.

This is not to say that it’s a good reason to let women suffer from side effects alone and deny men the option to take on the burden. This is just one of many systemic barriers in modern medicine that have been detrimental to women.

I’m so sorry for what your wife went through, and what you had to watch. That is absolutely horrifying.

I completely agree with what you’ve said, and I wish more people can come to understand that live births are not the rainbows and sparkles that we’ve been conditioned into believing, but a life or death, permanently disfiguring, or traumatizing process it is.

For anyone disagree with you: Can there be beauty, humor, and joy in this? There absolutely can. None of this is about sucking away the joy of childbirth, it’s about addressing the nonchalant attitudes and assumptions that many non-birthing people have about it. There is a time and place for everything, and a joke at the expense of someone giving birth that they didn’t find funny being posted on social media isn’t a tasteful one.

Does this make that guy the most horrible person? No. This isn’t about that one guy, it’s about addressing a cultural attitude towards childbirth is that is harmful to women, many of which get the wrong ideas about childbirth. It’s about the trivialization of mental health of new mothers, something that I’m sure lots of men can empathize with.

Yeah, for all the high praise about Lemmy and all the shit posts about Reddit, this community lacks self awareness when it comes to making women feel like people, let alone feel welcome here. Outside of 196 and a few small instances, this place is getting infested with edgy 14 year old r/dankmemes boys.

Inb4 someone invalidates this, think about the relevance of your own experiences before commenting.

Lemmy is 77% men. If you want memes where the punchline isn’t women’s bodies being a piece of meat, go to Tumblr.

This would be funny if the wife was amused.

In 2020, 287,000 mothers died during live births according to the WHO. To put it in perspective, roughly 703,000 people commit suicide per year, something that we take much more seriously than ‘haha funny shirt guy’ here. The first statistic doesn’t even include mothers who suffer from post-partum depression and commit suicide.

The biggest lies told to girls is the trivialization of childbirth. Imagine if your pelvis was forced apart, your perinium torn, your muscles pulling cramps for 12-24 hours straight, piss and shit spilling out of you, your privates in full view and constantly touched by strangers. After all that you are expected to be fine, happy, elated even, to act as though none of agony you went through has shredded your mind. You are expected to smile and hold your child as if that is guaranteed to magically resolve any lingering thoughts about the body horror you just went through. Of course, this doesn’t always happens. Countless mothers develop post-partum depression and even commit suicide.

If we took live births even half as seriously as suicide maybe we can better support those who are predisposed to PPD and prevent self harm.

Inb4 someone says ‘lighten up’ or ‘calm down’, think about the relevance of your experiences before commenting. Lemmy’s userbase is 77% men and sometimes it shows (see the other comment on this post).

That’s not an unpopular opinion, that’s just a sheltered opinion. A few things you need to get out of your head:

1. That so called ‘safe countries’ are safe for everyone. This doesn’t say anything about those countries, it only says how little you know about them.
2. People seek asylum trivially and are choosy beggars for going to X country (doesn’t matter where, this kind of sentiment is always the same)
3. Europe going to war was ‘the good old days’.
4. That Europe isn’t at war right now
5. The act of being born in a ‘safe country’ makes you more deserving of it than other human beings