• mugthol@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        5 months ago

        I’ve never seen or heard anybody tell men not to trauma dump. On the contrary, I’ve only seen people tell men that they should open up and be comfortable with their emotions.

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            5 months ago

            Are you going to those places to talk about your problems? I think you might be misunderstanding the point of those communities.

            • This is fine🔥🐶☕🔥@lemmy.world
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              5 months ago

              Nope. That’s just women discussing amongst themselves or answering questions about red flags or relationships.

              Other terms I learnt are: love bombing, breadcrumbing, benching.

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                5 months ago

                I know it might be strange to think, but not even close to a percent of women frequent those spaces.

                Do you really think thats where youll find how the average woman feels?

                Those terms are just as foreign to the average woman as they are to us. If you dont believe me, go look at the male equivalent spaces to those you listed. See if the men posting there represent your views well.

                • This is fine🔥🐶☕🔥@lemmy.world
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                  5 months ago

                  It’s not just reddit. It’s on every social media.

                  To think that such opinions are reaching only a small percentage of people in this day and age is just naivety.

                  Secondly, I’m not from the ‘West’. The cultural divide between traditional and modern is much more stark where I’m from than it is in the ‘West’.

                  Which means, if I want to date an independent woman in my country, it is most likely that she holds such views influenced by social media. Which means I have even fewer chances here than I’d have outside.

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                    5 months ago

                    Or you could just not generalize actual people. Statistics aren’t meant to be applied to individual scenarios. They are meant to aid decision making not to determine what will and won’t happen with a specific person.

                    Go out, and meet some real women, and youll find not a single one of them is the same. Sorta like how you and your friends are all different people who, despite living in the same area and spending a lot of timetogetherz, still have their own personalities, peculiarities, and interests.

                    Are you concerned you will waste your time with someone? How could a relationship with another person sound so awful to you from a default position? Its also okay to disagree with someone, and everyone is on their own journey of understanding thousands of different concepts, to discount everyone who currently mentions those ridiculous terms of yours, is shooting yourself in the foot at best.

                    If you’ve ever had a belief or idea of yours changed before than you’d understand how absurd your excuses are.