• FiveMacs@lemmy.ca
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    5 months ago

    …I hate when people only look at clothes for fashion and their appearance. Clothes sound be more functional then anything.

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      5 months ago

      I’ve seen people try to say that shorts are “unprofessional” but my counter is being a sweaty mess is worse. If it isn’t cold enough to warrant pants, in wearing shorts!

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        5 months ago

        I’m baffled how much people care about other people’s clothing. It’s childish. How do shorts or pants have anything to do with professionalism?

  • LaunchesKayaks@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    Haven’t shaved my legs since 2019 and it’s the best. I only shave my pits at this point because my sweat smells worse with hair there. Everything else is free, as nature intended.

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      5 months ago

      Opposite here. Used to never shave. Shaved and the smoothness is intoxicating. It’s a pain to do tho.

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          5 months ago

          No one is supposed to do anything.

          Were hurling through space on the crust of a molten core rock, orbiting an angry fusion reactor.

          Do whatever, star stuff

  • FiniteBanjo@lemmy.today
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    5 months ago

    I really never understand any amount of shame of one’s own body. Like I understand tons and tons of people feel it but I don’t understand why.

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      5 months ago

      I can’t speak to everyone, but for a lot of women my age, it’s because we grew up being bombarded with images of objectively thin women and being told that they were fat. You couldn’t go to the grocery store without seeing magazines talking about celebrities with cellulite and the tone was always, “can you believe she went out like that?” I remember Jessica Simpson wearing this outfit and being called awful names for how “big” she looked. It’s hard to get past literal decades of that shit.

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        5 months ago

        Okay but if you think your body and heart is strong and capable then why give a fuck what some worm who works a dead end job for a Gossip Magazine might hypothetically think? Like, I don’t deny the culture you described exists, but you’re your own person with full control of your actions. The people, who might shame you, should be seen as weak and foolish for doing so. Laugh at them. Be comfortable in your skin. No one else can be you. You’re the one. Being the best you does not mean being the idol envisioned by others.

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          No offense, but that’s some real thanksimcured material. If people could just say they’re not going to care about the opinions of others and have that switch actually flip, society would need like, 50% fewer therapists, but it doesn’t work like that.

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            5 months ago

            You say that disregarding people’s opinions isn’t so easy while disregarding my opinion, so there you go. My comment is somehow more silly to you than fear of the guy who called Jessica Simpson fat?

    • hoshikarakitaridia@lemmy.world
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      It’s like a defense mechanism for me. Imagine you are always an outsider and you see that people who are insiders get treated super badly at some point just for not looking “perfect”. You start to be cautious about what you wear and how you look, because you need all the tricks you can get to finally fit in. You want friends to, maybe even find love. Everything social in your life might depend on it and who are you to doom yourself. What, you still haven’t done it? Look how easy all of them do it, but you are still just trying? Well it can’t be everyone else can it? There must be something more, maybe you’re not trying hard enough. Maybe you are just too dumb to really try, maybe your stupid body is just too misshapen to get comfortable. Maybe it’s you. You are the problem.

      Anyway, there’s some context. Oh and also if you throw body dysmorphia in the mix the thoughts sound even more crazy.

      Oh also for anyone wondering, I don’t have it as much so don’t worry about me, but I have this just a little bit so I can at least feel how other people hone in on this stuff.

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        5 months ago

        So it’s not a fear of being judged but rather a fear of consequence for not adhering to a standard?