I have a really bad habit of getting into relationships with people ,who are nice at first then just stop caring . I listen to peoples feelings and am a very honest and open person . I know when to stop speaking and for some reason I don’t know why I could work and also cook the next days meals the night before on my workdays and clean the mess I made while still cleaning my partners mess when I get home and it would never be enough . on my days off I dont have a pleasing people issue I just like lots of tasks it makes me happy and I still always have time for myself and my partner of course. I give my partner space and listen to their feelings as well as just being there for them . What am I doing wrong? I always just say if you need something or want something to be different just tell me and I can make it work if my partner says they want tondo something like helo cook or work or anything else I’m cool with it . I’m an easy to please respectful person I hold doors and have manners. I don’t know I guess I just want some advice on what I should do after I heal from my breakup? I just am gonna take some time to myself and reflect and do some self improvement . Thanks,
As a long time single I am not really in a place to give advice but have you considered the option that you do too much of the workload in your relationships? I can not really gauge that, however it is important that both/all parties invest meaningful time and work into a relationship. If one party does not, it might damage their percieved “worth” of that relationship. So all i could say is to not allways go out of you way to make everything even out by yourself but to also be demanding at times. Sounds counterintuitive but we tend to more like the people we spent effort on.
Thanks this actually helps alot I appreciate it very much . I’ll take your advice and self reflect and do the small list of things you said to do . I guess I just needed someone to say it to notice my unconscious insecurities. Thank you