Another realization is that I think the rule makers think they stand far above rule followers. They don’t care about rule followers, only make rules to reduce their problems by controlling rule followers.

I think that’s more about the person than the rules. There are plenty of people who follow the rules who also make the rules, it’s just that the rule makers that disobey the rules tend to be egregious and/or it affects us personally, and hypocrisy is difficult to swallow if you’re the kind of person that plays by the rules. I absolutely agree that rules are often made for the convenience of those in charge probably as often as they are made to address an actual wrong. Guess which one is most quickly enforced, though…

Anyway, I know that wasn’t the bulk of your post, but it was the one thing I could offer any decent conversation about. Hope you get what you need and you can feel part of the world around you instead of apart.