This type of “now this friendship is in focus, now it’s not” time-blindness is really common with ADHD folks.

  • xmunk@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    50·
    11 days ago

    This but months.

    I have ADHD and have a good friend with ADHD… we meet up maybe once a year and enjoy the fuck out of our conversation.

    And that’s enough for us.

    • Viking_Hippie@lemmy.worldEnglish
      8·
      11 days ago

      This but sometimes even years. Pretty sure a lot of people that I love just as much as I ever did couldn’t pick me out of a line up 🤔

      ADHD and social anxiety is a mean mixture sometimes lol

  • Monument@lemmy.sdf.orgEnglish
    17·
    11 days ago

    Good old object permanence.

    Who knew the thing that makes stuff I can’t see not exist can also make people not exist unless they’re just front and center in my mind.

    It’s so foreign to me that other people experience an attenuation in affection towards others if they don’t keep up regularly. People I don’t see just exist out of time in my head and I feel the same about them as I last did.

  • AVincentInSpace@pawb.socialEnglish
    16·
    11 days ago

    when god programmed ADHD brains he forgot to merge the friendship degradation mechanic from the mainline branch and i’m really glad He did

    • Flocklesscrow@lemm.eeEnglish
      7·
      10 days ago

      I’ve never understood recency bias in friendship. If we’re friends, what does it matter how long its been? Why does a relationship degrade simply because time has elapsed? Is your brain so fickle? Is there no expectation of continuity? Loyalty? Does a treasured item that’s been put in a drawer for a time lose its innate value?

      In this regard, I prefer my brain to whatever the hell normative is; I don’t require constant or regular affirmation to remain steadfast in my beliefs.

  • Vibi@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    14·
    11 days ago

    I have a fast rate of friendship and comfort decay. If I can interact with my friends regularly throughout the week I feel like my life absolutely glows, but if people start canceling or life just gets too busy, the moments I do get to spend with them starts feeling forced and awkward. Some people seem to thrive interacting with their friends occasionally or once every week or two, but I turtle shell super fast once regularly interactions stop.

  • blindbunny@lemmy.mlEnglish
    9·
    11 days ago

    I met a guy one week next week he’s tying me to a chair to use me a a free use dildo for 24 hours next week I can’t even remember his name…

  • PugJesus@lemmy.worldEnglish
    5·
    11 days ago

    My friends used to say that if I was ever murdered, it would be weeks before anyone realized I was missing.