• KillingTimeItself@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    14 days ago

    The problem is that for many women, sex always runs the risk of pregnancy, and they are actively making it extremely dangerous for us to be pregnant.

    so then don’t have sex because it’s not economically or financially tenable. Not because “men are the scum of the earth”

    There’s nothing wrong with a principled opinion, there’s everything wrong with a pointed attack founded on shaky grounds.

    The left really fucking sucks at rhetoric, that’s one thing i’ve noticed.

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      14 days ago

      Who said men are the scum of the earth? Nothing in my comment was about that and if you’re talking about the original 4b movement I think I made it pretty clear that I’m not on board with how it’s being interpreted or approached by the groups of women I’ve seen discussing it post-election.

      But even leaving this response is in defiance of 4b, which I’m still choosing to participate in on my own terms, so it will be my last. I don’t know why you’re intent on blaming imaginary women for your hurt feelings, but it’s not a good faith argument. It shouldn’t be this difficult for men to figure out why the 4b movement appeals to women (and the men and non binary folks who support them.)

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        12 days ago

        I don’t know why you’re intent on blaming imaginary women for your hurt feelings

        im not, i just have grievances with people not wording and articulating things correctly.

        To be clear, i’ve already said i have no problem with like 95% of the post, if not all of it, my problem is specifically with how people word things. Arguably if we’re reading into this deeply my post is actually a satire of the problem at hand here, but that’s rather silly and nobody gives a fuck about clever satire.

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      13 days ago

      She clearly said the risk of pregnancy was due to policy decisions, not bad men. She obviously adores her husband and he adores her. One of the points is that even happily married couples who should be able to have sex can’t have sex because the medical risk is too great because of decisions made by a government and not medical professionals and their patients.

      They sound like people that would like to have children one day. But if the medical care isn’t available they are gambling on o will they get: 1 - a healthy baby and two alive healthy parents 2 - a baby and a grieving dad (wife dead) 3 - only a grieving husband (wife and baby dead) 4 - no baby, grieving parents, and a wife with possible lifetime disability, and/or infertility 5 - a severely disabled baby that the parents get to watch suffer for days and weeks or longer before it dies of something we already know is incompatible with life.

      The rest of it is trying to figure out how to support other women, through 4B or however possible, that are in other situations from her own.