If a woman tells a man to having emotions isn’t manly then they’re not acting as a feminist. That, by definition, is an idea that comes to us from the religious, moral, and civic tradition that produced the modern patriarchy. The people, men and women, who say and do things that reflect and maintain those ideas are failing the ideals of feminism.
To use an analogy, North Korea calls itself a democracy. They do not elect a leader. That doesn’t mean democracy has failed, just that this country is doing anti democratic things.
Great! That’s a great outlook. Now please start saying those things without a guy like me having to browbeat you into it first. And start saying them to the women who are failing feminism, not to us. If feminism would reject and excise these women, and focus on teaching women to be better (not exclusively focusing on that! Just make it part of the program) then everything I’ve been talking about would be a nothingburger.
Maybe you should work on your reading comprehension, because that’s what I and like 4 other commenters have been saying. Then you can go ahead and submit a complaint to the president of feminism, since you seem to think that they’re having a meeting and deciding that you personally aren’t masculine enough for them.
Your anger does not change the fact that feminism is failing boys in this way. You want to stop alienating boys? Clean up your own house and start giving a damn about them.
Bro, that’s the fuckin point. The patriarchal nature of our society has done this, not feminism. And since we still live under a largely patriarchal society, men are the ones empowered to do something about it. Should those women individually be better? Yeah, probably. But they’re still not really the ones running the fuckin show.
You want to talk about cleaning up house? Maybe look around at what you can do instead of expecting a group that has been treated as property for the last 1000 years to do the emotional labor that us men have been neglecting in order to spare your feelings.
Emotional labor is everyone’s responsibility. Women don’t get to have a “turn” of being dismissive and belittling. If you don’t give a shit about men, boys are not going to give a shit about you. That’s why boys are turning against feminism. Boys need help. Boys need understanding. Boys need nurturing and strong male role models. Boys need someone who says “I see you and understand your struggles, and they are valid, and I want to help”. Feminism refuses to do that, so boys don’t participate in feminism.
Which I think is fair on both sides. Black Lives Matter isn’t concerned with the struggles of Native people. It’s a fight, but it’s not their fight. If feminism wants to be exclusively a voice for women, that’s not a bad thing. But it’s to be expected boys won’t consider themselves feminists. They may support it in principle, but then if they’re constantly told they’re the enemy because of the sins of their fathers, well, maybe they won’t support it.
If a woman tells a man to having emotions isn’t manly then they’re not acting as a feminist. That, by definition, is an idea that comes to us from the religious, moral, and civic tradition that produced the modern patriarchy. The people, men and women, who say and do things that reflect and maintain those ideas are failing the ideals of feminism.
To use an analogy, North Korea calls itself a democracy. They do not elect a leader. That doesn’t mean democracy has failed, just that this country is doing anti democratic things.
Great! That’s a great outlook. Now please start saying those things without a guy like me having to browbeat you into it first. And start saying them to the women who are failing feminism, not to us. If feminism would reject and excise these women, and focus on teaching women to be better (not exclusively focusing on that! Just make it part of the program) then everything I’ve been talking about would be a nothingburger.
Maybe you should work on your reading comprehension, because that’s what I and like 4 other commenters have been saying. Then you can go ahead and submit a complaint to the president of feminism, since you seem to think that they’re having a meeting and deciding that you personally aren’t masculine enough for them.
Grow up.
Your anger does not change the fact that feminism is failing boys in this way. You want to stop alienating boys? Clean up your own house and start giving a damn about them.
Bro, that’s the fuckin point. The patriarchal nature of our society has done this, not feminism. And since we still live under a largely patriarchal society, men are the ones empowered to do something about it. Should those women individually be better? Yeah, probably. But they’re still not really the ones running the fuckin show.
You want to talk about cleaning up house? Maybe look around at what you can do instead of expecting a group that has been treated as property for the last 1000 years to do the emotional labor that us men have been neglecting in order to spare your feelings.
Emotional labor is everyone’s responsibility. Women don’t get to have a “turn” of being dismissive and belittling. If you don’t give a shit about men, boys are not going to give a shit about you. That’s why boys are turning against feminism. Boys need help. Boys need understanding. Boys need nurturing and strong male role models. Boys need someone who says “I see you and understand your struggles, and they are valid, and I want to help”. Feminism refuses to do that, so boys don’t participate in feminism.
Which I think is fair on both sides. Black Lives Matter isn’t concerned with the struggles of Native people. It’s a fight, but it’s not their fight. If feminism wants to be exclusively a voice for women, that’s not a bad thing. But it’s to be expected boys won’t consider themselves feminists. They may support it in principle, but then if they’re constantly told they’re the enemy because of the sins of their fathers, well, maybe they won’t support it.