I really understand you and given your personal experience (and pain), your reaction might be a bit too confrontational but certainly understandable. I am sorry if I said anything that opened old wounds in you.

I obviously think accepting oneself is very important. I would be never deny the possibility of they being trans. I wasn’t and aren’t aware how often “femboy” is a expression of denialism, or if I misunderstood you, the more appropriate term. Thanks for clueing me in.

That being said, I don’t think I denied the possibility of him being trans but argued for accepting them in public discours however they identify. That doesn’t mean you can talk about the general tendency of closeted trans women in regards of being femboys in public. But maybe not about specific people. I am not affected and can’t tell, but I am really scared that arguing in public without the required context could be a way to unintentionally teach harmful behavior to people, naming publicly doubting and creating a somewhat hostile environment. I am cis straight but it doesn’t take me much empathy to find tears for the pain in the heart of the people we talk about. I just wanna less their pain and maybe that leads on the long term wrong path.

I wanna tell you good bye and hope to read you here again. I wish you happiness. Take care, sister.