• Enkrod
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    3 months ago

    Anon doesn’t care she’s drunk, only that she “belongs” to someone else. Good Anon would have told her to try this again while sober and preferably single.

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      2 months ago

      Unfortunately they don’t actually state their reasoning. They just state what they told her while trying to reason with them to go to sleep.

      You are probably right, but its just an assumption. In their position I would also be attempting to reason with them by reminding them of their existing relationship instead of “No, I don’t want to rape you. You cannot consent.”

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      3 months ago

      Maybe anon is an awkward young person who understands the ethical issue, but is hiding behind social norms because he has trouble with asserting his own ethical views and being accepted for them. Maybe he’s using the boyfriend as an excuse to avoid her trying to prove she’s sober enough and she can totally consent.

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        3 months ago

        Maybe. But we don’t know and should not speculate, we can only work with the text that we have.

        I’m not saying anon is a bad person, just that in the text as is, he’s not identifying the correct issue and instead relying on patriarchal preconceptions about relationships, which is a bad thing.