Honestly it’s more like
Oh boy, a well-defined task with a beginning, progress, an end, and an obvious benefit to someone! I get to be valuable!
versus
I have several days’ worth of clean clothes, there is no need to rush
Is this really an ADHD thing? I will go out of my way to help other people, but yeah, I can’t be bothered to fold my own laundry so I just throw it all in a clothes basket and stick it in the closet.
It’s not exclusively ADHD but a lot of us ADHD folks seem to be like this.
The difference I think is for ADHD it’s not “can’t be bothered to fold my own laundry” it’s “I cannot force myself to fold laundry and if I try I will lose focus on the task and be scrolling my phone within 30 seconds of starting.”
more than that, in my experience when i simply cannot do something and try to force myself to do it, it leads to me feeling like i’m going to die.
The phone scrolling is a form of self-defence to distract from that feeling of “i’m useless and god is about to smite me for sucking so hard”
There’s just this… dread or uneasiness whenever I’m forced or forcing myself to do something. Like, cleaning is great on the rare occassion I just naturally have the energy and will to do it, but anytime else it’s like torture.
Sometimes it helps to think of yourself as a friend you are helping out.
With this site I feel it’s like… aren’t these problems everyone suffers from? Or am I just projecting my potential fear of having a condition 😅
If everyone had this particular issue the world would be very different I think.
You’re probably right
As has been said previously to this question: most people likely have issues like this from time to time, what makes it problematic is having them almost constantly and to such a degree that it’s crippling.
Everyone coughs from time to time, but if you have a chronic cough that’s so bad that you cough up blood every time, that’s not normal and you need to see a doctor.
See mom, I told you I am fine!
Just pondering on my own misery, cause I can relate is all. Wasn’t trying to put OP down for feeling it. I’ll try to be more careful with the wording next time thx
Oh, I didn’t share this to say that I’m going to ban you. I just thought that this post would answer your question. I made a lot of comments today and I was too tired to bother with explaining things.
Ah aight haha, all good then
