As a blind man, I know I am usually attracted to the sound of a woman’s voice. It’s usually just the way they say a specific word or syllable, like “uh huh”. However I find this almost never happens with people in the “real world”. It only happens with voice actors, other performers, and people who are completely unavailable. I know that sighted people are usually attracted to one another by a person’s physical appearance, at least initially. For blind people, attraction is based on voice or touch, and touch is a big no-no most of the time. The one time I dated a woman who was blind, we were touching each other toward the end of our first date, which was quite an eye-opener, figuratively speaking. Online dating has become so visual that I’ve all but abandoned it. I have felt starved for arousal as someone who lives on my own because of this. Have any other blind people found they rarely feel attraction in the real world?

  • TheYear2525@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    I’m not blind, but to me this seems analogous to when sighted people watch too much popular media and struggle to find normal looking people attractive, or even to the similar situation with some people expecting sexual partners to act like porn actors.

    If it’s the same kind of thing, it may help to take a break from media with voice actors, and get more non-romantic voice-based socialization, even if it’s just Discord or whatever people use these days, just to help reset your idea of normal.