I had someone tell me “He/Him Lesbians” were a thing recently and they weren’t referring to FTM Transguys either (Which I was relieved by as that would be a horribly offensive thing to call that crowd since a lesbian is a woman who exclusively is attracted to other women, and FTMs are NOT women.) Somedays I just don’t know if I’m getting too old and set in my ways or if the world has just lost the plot.
These days I just kinda “nod” at things and go along with them even if I don’t agree or understand, within reason of course. (i’m not going to let anyone take fucking dieting advice from a breatharian)
he/him lesbians is largely a historical teem referring to lesbians in the 1980s scene who would identify as (typically butch) women but go by he/him pronouns (see stone butch blues)
(but it’s old enough that some people have rediscovered it)
The feminine (and, by extension, lesbian) is constantly portrayed in such a sweet and gentle way and masculine us always so rough that I can’t help but say “lesbian relationships to me, please”
And I’m a guy.
Where tf did we lose those cute gentle hetero relationships and representation? Okay there’s GFD, but barely anyone notices it and it’s strictly about women taking the lead and mostly sexual, which is only one side of the story.
All the straight boys you know have probably at some poiot been devastated to remember they are tecnnically not lesbians, because dick.
I had someone tell me “He/Him Lesbians” were a thing recently and they weren’t referring to FTM Transguys either (Which I was relieved by as that would be a horribly offensive thing to call that crowd since a lesbian is a woman who exclusively is attracted to other women, and FTMs are NOT women.) Somedays I just don’t know if I’m getting too old and set in my ways or if the world has just lost the plot.
These days I just kinda “nod” at things and go along with them even if I don’t agree or understand, within reason of course. (i’m not going to let anyone take fucking dieting advice from a breatharian)
he/him lesbians is largely a historical teem referring to lesbians in the 1980s scene who would identify as (typically butch) women but go by he/him pronouns (see stone butch blues)
(but it’s old enough that some people have rediscovered it)
The way you phrased it makes it sound like more of a sex thing than a gender identity thing
Unpopular opinion : once you start blurring the lines of what gender is, the straightness based definitions of things go out the window.
An FTM and MTF relationship is something alright. None of my business.
but, linguistically speaking, I don’t think straight as a label applies to it, even though it’s male + female.
it ties into the difference between someone being pansexual, and bisexual.
Seriously though
The feminine (and, by extension, lesbian) is constantly portrayed in such a sweet and gentle way and masculine us always so rough that I can’t help but say “lesbian relationships to me, please”
And I’m a guy.
Where tf did we lose those cute gentle hetero relationships and representation? Okay there’s GFD, but barely anyone notices it and it’s strictly about women taking the lead and mostly sexual, which is only one side of the story.