• Leate_Wonceslace@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
    161·
    2 months ago

    You’re replying to someone else. We were on a tinder date, watching a movie and when she had to go she mentioned while giggling and blushing “You’re a feminist but when it comes to the bedroom, I don’t want you to be a feminist” to me and then left. Later, she invited me over, and I didn’t behave like a feminist. So that was fun, and it wasn’t the last time she invited me, either.

    • prowe45@lemm.ee
      9·
      2 months ago

      I still legitimately didn’t know what it means to not “be a feminist” with regards to sexual relations. Like, don’t treat her as an equal, so be a selfish lover who doesn’t care if she gets off as long as you do? Or more like the original post, don’t concern yourself with “feminist” concepts like consent and just start having sex with her without asking her if she wants to? Just be a caveman who takes what he wants, when he wants it? I know that there are plenty of women who are into that sort of thing, so no kink shaming, I justed wanted to be sure I knew what we were actually talking about.