Let’s hear some stories from the thready-verse about how you guys met your significant other.
For me it was during the first year of COVID, my company asked who from Europe (I was living in Sweden) wanted to go for a three month business trip to coach a big Korean automotive supplier on how to do modern software development. Most of the other people had families and especially during COVID nobody wanted to travel. I said I could do it, even though I never coached before. But because nobody else volunteered they sent me and and another guy who also was single without a family, etc.
I was convinced that the other guy would have good game with the women here, and thought that there is no harm in installing some international dating app and to try my own luck. During COVID I just lost a ton of weight and found new confidence and it was far away from home and what happens in Korea stays in Korea and so on :D
Anyway, to my surprise during the first two weeks I got some matches and I hit it off with one of them. We met and started dating and very quickly fell for each other. Then when the 3 months were over, I asked the company if the customer would still have some use for my skills and they said yes and send me for 3 more months. I had to go back to Sweden to get a new Visa and spent another 2 weeks in quarantine (as the first time). But then the second tree months were over too and I asked again for more. By that time I was really sick of all the time in quarantine and asked if they could move me from the Swedish office to the Korean office and they agreed.
I went back to Sweden, threw away most of my stuff and put the most valuable things up on a friends attic and moved to Korea with one suitcase. I stayed at AirBnB’s for two more months and then we found an apartment and moved in together.
She has a daughter from a previous marriage and we now have a 1.5 year old son together and we still live in Korea :D
I’m a firm believer in everything happens for a reason, no matter how shitty it may be. There’s lessons to learn and things to appreciate and it seems like you guys have both covered. Don’t dwell on the past - focus on the future and things you do have control over. Good luck to you both.
Edit - thanks for sharing your story.
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Having a negative attitude about it to the point you’re aimlessly bitching to random people online doesn’t help. You come across as wanting to shit on other people’s happiness, which is a personality trait that tends to make people not want to interact with you.
There’s plenty of places online to vent about this and seek assistance if you really want it. More than one “off my chest” community across the various lemmy instances.
EDIT: In another comment you mention being old enough to potentially have teenage kids. My wife and I got together when she was nearly 40. There’s still hope.
Nothing helps dude. Nothing. I lost any hope, I’m not even sure if I had one, I guess it is what it is, not everyone can reproduce, but still sad I just wish to stop feeling anything so I can live like a robot, doing useless stuff until I die and not caring.
Look into stoicism, perhaps that philosophy helps you to change your mind about the definition of a well lived life.
I read about it before but I’m incapable of it, requires certain physical and mental fortitude by default. I’ve failed enough in my “regular not regular” life already, trying a180 out of nowhere will get me… Well, nowhere.