My cat’s torn. I got her before meeting my husband and I’m her person, but he’s bigger, so she gets to be taller if she sits on him. She tends to sit on him, with at least one paw on me. He does toss and turn more than I do, so sometimes she’ll get annoyed and come back to me completely.

But if either of us is in an uncomfortable position that we shouldn’t try to hold, she’ll come over immediately and curl up.