So… i completely forgot to actually create this post lol. 4 days late. Sorry, was busy with exams :D

  • Bedelia@lemmy.world
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    5 days ago

    I think my relationship is coming to an end. My partner has been begging for communication and I am trying to ask for it in too many ways and not blunt enough. I sort of have to laugh because they don’t see the correlation and causation quality time could have on our communication.

    I know we are chronically online. I am guilty of it. But take it from me, your phone, Reddit, Facebook, talking to your exes to be friendly isn’t worth your partner if it hurts your connection to them. Sitting sort of beside your partner and focusing on your phone isn’t quality time.

    To my partner: I am sorry I let you down and I couldn’t articulate this point before in a way that didn’t hurt you

    • fxomt@lemmy.dbzer0.comOPM
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      4 days ago

      I’m very sorry to hear about your relationship, I don’t think you were in the wrong, but just a tragic misunderstanding. I hope you two get together somehow again

    • B0NK3RS@lemmy.world
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      5 days ago

      I can relate to this. I’m the one seeking quality time together and my wife thinks that being close by is enough. Choosing something to watch, sitting down together and then for her to just start reading a book on her phone is not at all what I need but she doesn’t seem to understand.

      • Bedelia@lemmy.world
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        4 days ago

        Thank you. That was my partner as well. We would sit down and start a movie or show or activity but my partner always had their phone and would be on it for their own distraction. I realized too late and expressed myself in a way that made them feel less. I wish I expressed it better and didn’t make them feel inadequate and not enough because I asked for that

        I wish we didn’t break up less than an hour ago. I miss them already and they are just in the next room… I miss them like crazy