We decided not to do it just because it’s gotten so fucking complicated in the modern era.
Back when women didn’t have rights, sure get a new name. But now that means going through the court to change your name, then to the DMV for a new ID, then going to the bank immediately to change that, then getting new insurance cards, then updating her retirement account, then getting the car registration changed to the new name, then all of the credit cards need to be re-issued, then her medical license needs to re-issued, and her license to carry, and I’m sure there’s a few that also need to be updated that I forgot about.
We made a list and looked at how long it would take to fill out one of the name change forms at the bank. It would take like 3 days of doing nothing but changing the name just to have everything updated. And then her friends had issues with insurance denying care because of the name mismatch, even after they’d had it updated.
There is not a rule that they need to. It’s just been done for so long that most people just don’t think about it or the implications.
We decided not to do it just because it’s gotten so fucking complicated in the modern era.
Back when women didn’t have rights, sure get a new name. But now that means going through the court to change your name, then to the DMV for a new ID, then going to the bank immediately to change that, then getting new insurance cards, then updating her retirement account, then getting the car registration changed to the new name, then all of the credit cards need to be re-issued, then her medical license needs to re-issued, and her license to carry, and I’m sure there’s a few that also need to be updated that I forgot about.
We made a list and looked at how long it would take to fill out one of the name change forms at the bank. It would take like 3 days of doing nothing but changing the name just to have everything updated. And then her friends had issues with insurance denying care because of the name mismatch, even after they’d had it updated.
It’s so much work for no gain
I mean I am not there yet but I guess it depends on a person to person basis.