Caption: When you ask an Autistic person to do something, make sure to attach a timeframe like “today,” “or at 3 PM,” (avoiding demanding words like “now”) and a definite personalization of who needs to do the thing that is being suggested. If one or both of these things is missing from your request, we will not see them as a request, but a passive statement, and it will not get done.
Image: 2 panels with an alien speaking to a person. One panel is labeled “incorrect” and the other “correct”.
Incorrect: The alien’s statement is written in a bubble shaped like an arrow. It points from the alien’s mouth to the person’s ear, stating, “The trash needs to be taken out.” There is another empty arrow pointing out of the person’s other ear.
Correct: The alien’s statement is written in a similar arrow, stating, “Please take the trash out in a minute.” The person responds, “Sure.” There is no other arrow pointing out of the person’s other ear.
One evening for dinner as a change, I asked my 11 year old Aspergers son “do you fancy a walk to McDonald’s for dinner tonight?”
He said no, which puzzled me because he loves McDonald’s.
But of course I said "do you fancy a walk " which he didn’t.
his love for McDonald’s was overshadowed by his distaste for walking. As a fellow Lemmy basement dweller, I feel like most of us can relate.