I’m not bothered by it at all, and I’m not at all curious about what they’re saying about me. I suppose I just trust that if someone has something to say to me, they will. But I’m coming to realize that is somewhat unusual so I am curious about what you experience if you learn about people talking about you?
I think it highly depends on who does the talking. If it’s people I do not care about, I am also not interested and/or bothered. If it is people that mean something to me I AM interested in their opinion about me which they communicate while talking about me. I will not go „out of my way“ to find out what they are saying, but I am curious at least.