Hey guys…this is kind of a long story but I will try to break it down in a timeline basis

Me: 21F Him: 23M

November**** —> we started talking in November, everything was amazing, he is long distance (7hr drive) but initially he said we would be friends because he doesn’t have much to offer me (first week ish of talking). We met up, hung out multiple times and we clicked. We texted every night and all -> I told him about my past and I had many problems with my father so I sought comfort in men which I regret. I never felt wanted growing up so I made mistakes and would have sex with people with no emotional connection because it made me feel wanted in a way (I know it’s dumb but it’s rlly serious for me) -> he asked me my body count (which is like 19-21) idek it myself because it’s just traumatizing. I initially said 5 (we were on call) because I wanted to know his reaction and he was so upset and I felt bad so then I told him the actual number. We had only been talking for 3 weeks or whatever and I was just so scared of him leaving me over it. I know it’s high so before you guys judge me for this I am safe from stuff and I always got tested. When I told him, he was super super upset and was crying a bit about it and felt sick. I get it. He’s past this now tho. He said he felt saddened that I didn’t see my self worth. It’s whatever tho.

December-January-February —> we hung out more, had nights out and obviously did sexual stuff, etc, etc… did everything couples do but he never asked me to be his girl. At this point I’m super confused because I didn’t know what he wanted from me. My past consisted of me basically just being used for sexual stuff and no one could ever love me to be in a relationship. So I asked him “what do u want from me?” And he didn’t say date or anything. He said he doesn’t know how the future will look like because he doesn’t know where he will be for work. So I said okay. I was still confused. I didn’t know if he wants a relationship or what? I thought people usually ask others?

March-April -> during march, I did go through his following list (ik I’m crazy) but I had to. I noticed he follows this one Instagram kinda famous girl, super attractive and posts seducing photos. I definitely got sad from this and started comparing myself (my ex used to compare me with others girls towards the end of the relationship so it stemmed from that, and I know my ex is not this guy and I shouldn’t be worried but I definitely was upset). He did like plenty of her photos before we met which I don’t care about. She did post one seducing photo and he did like it in march. I did get super sad but I ended up confessing what I did. I did join her twitch and ask her and she said he used to message her and call her beautiful and whatever. It’s fine. It was before. But this did hurt. I know it’s just social media. Anyways, I’m only adding this information because it might formulate everything better together. He only messages her BEFORE he met me and she even said he stopped which I respected a lot. I told him about it, he felt horrible, removed and explained in the most beautiful and comforting way ever, we talked and communicated and everything was good and I felt good after. -> I do have TikTok and have had it for years, I would go live and yes some people would dm me and stuff but I never entertained them. I was at a low point financially so I asked my bf (didn’t know rlly if he was my bf but I assumed because we would send each other bf/gf memes) if he would be fine with me sending fake nudes to old men for money. He said yes. The first guy I sent fake nudes and he sent me a dick pic back and I told him that better not be how he’s paying me. I got mad. I might have fake flirted for money but he didn’t send and then we argued and I blocked him. I never sent any nudes of myself and I would never do that to my bf. Anyways, I didn’t tell my boyfriend he sent me any photos because I felt there wasn’t a point? I thought he would’ve kind of expected it as I’m sending fake nudes. But I didn’t expect it tbh, I was physically sick when I got them. Anyways, guy #2 actually sent me money and all I did was talk about our day, no photos, nothing, just one photo of me off of instagram to show I’m real and that’s it. My bf knew this, I even showed him a photo and offered him my passwords if he wanted to text them himself or see. I wasn’t hiding anything. After he sent money, my boyfriend let me know he wasn’t comfortable with it, I said ok. He told me unless they are donating through gofund me then it’s fine. So a week passes by, someone on TikTok says they can help me, I sent them the gofund me link and they asked for Instagram first and that they would send. So my idiot self gave them my Instagram handle and I immediately sent them the GFM link and they asked for photos. I said no, everything on my Instagram is there but I’m not sending you anything. And they sent a dick pic. I said we and blocked. I felt SO GUILTY for giving my Instagram to send GFM link so I immediately told my boyfriend. This is where things went downhill. He was super super upset. I then told him the first guy sent me a dick pic and that after the second guy, I did request some more money via banking which I regret. I guess in my head I was like “I’m not speaking to him so why not get some more out of it on email request” but it was dumb anyways. I regret I. He said he needed a break because he can’t trust me anymore. So the final trigger was giving my Instagram because a week before we had a chat about Instagram following. When I look back I cringe and feel silly because I know following doesn’t matter. He didn’t like that 700 guys follow me, I literally payed $5 for an app to remove them because I wanted him to feel better and happier so I did it. I don’t care for anyone but him. I have made those dumb mistakes for money because I’m struggling so hard. I never sent anything of myself but I feel horrible. He said he did get more upset of the fact they sent me a dick pic. He was saying something about “what if their d is better” or whatever and I told him to stop. It was traumatizing for me to see that shit so it made me so mad when he said this. I DONT CARE FOR ANY GUY. Then I hit a dark dark spot, I couldn’t stop crying and feeling guilty and he was also depressed. We both were so upset. I did something dumb and I decided to cut myself which I haven’t done in so long. I needed relief. I never hurt someone I love. Mind you, a week before I hurt him, I told him I love him, which I do. And I never felt that way about anyone since my ex. So I said it cuz I mean it. I don’t say those words to anyone. So I felt even more guilty. We met up after to talk about things (overnight) and when I arrived, I insisted we talk about things but he didn’t want to. We had sex. Next morning, shit happened and he said we should split. I did feel used. I felt like he just wanted final sex and then to end things. I couldn’t stop crying. I felt like we could’ve worked things out. I genuinely care about him so much and even though we are long distance, FaceTiming, playing games together, hearing about his day, just makes me complete. Picking a day I will see his beautiful face and soul just gave me something to look forward to.

Present We are still close friends and talk like nothing much changed ish. We did go out last weekend and everything was normal. Obviously not dating but still doing what “couples” do. It does hurt tho. I want him to be mine and I want to be his… I have brought it up to him so many times how I want it to work but he said there’s no hope. I brought it up again today. I just feel like I don’t have the closure or maybe I’m going through denial. It just hurts so fucking much. My chest physically hurts a lot. I saw him two days ago for a bit… we had sex… I wanted to say I love you so bad when I first hugged him but I couldn’t. I felt bad. I have so much love to give and I only want to give it to him. He accepted me for so many things I was ashamed of and made me feel happy. How bad did I fuck up. I want him back so bad but he said his friends knocked sense into him and also said sex during friendship isn’t healthy. And I felt a change in his energy last night after his talk lol. It hurt a lot. But I guess I deserve this pain because of the pain I inflicted on him.

Please give me real advice, no soft stuff, hit me with blunt truth.

Also when when we were talking about Instagram following it initially stamped because I was asking him if you were still following any girls hip previously done stuff with by the wayI am his first body, which is why he was more upset with my body count I’m assuming