How I interact with lemmy.ml:

1. If I see a post I want to comment on, I comment on it. I don’t give a fuck what instance it’s on.
2. If I want to post, I select the relevant community with the most subscribers. I don’t give a fuck what instance it’s on.
3. If I can’t comment or post there, because I was banned for criticizing a dictatorship, I select the next biggest community.

(This happens about 50% of the time, cause I’m now banned on most .ml communities, simply for posting common sense opinions.)