• DogWater@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Truth is the second option one is just a normal ass guy. Everyone has emotions and needs. The fact is it’s still taboo to be a “man” and have emotions.

    Like honestly tell me any other option on there is preferable to someone with emotions… She acting like women don’t require the same thing? Gtfoh. It’s not even a bad thing. It’s just a human thing.

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      What she’s referring to isn’t the same as having emotions. She means the people who expect everyone around them, especially their romantic partner, to manage their emotions for them. Plenty of women do it, too.

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        I don’t know anyone like that. I do know we are plenty of people who are drama queens.

        But that’s not really the same thing as having emotions people with functional emotions are actually fine, it’s the ones that don’t have emotions but do have an awful lot of opinions that are the problem.

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      one of the main points and benefits of a relationship is being able to share problems with someone else and have someone that could cheer you up or to share excitement with

      ‘emotional labor’ is for actual jobs, especially customer service type jobs

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        They mean something else though, which is having a partner who expects you to do all introspection and relationship management for you. I guess a lot of men did not have such a partner, because it is more common in men to expect this from their partner.

    • She’s referring to overly emotional men, who need extra attention; guys who can’t handle failure or rejection, who have a bad day at work and then can’t help around the house at all at night and who expect their partner to take care of them, regardless of how their partner’s day went. I know the type of dude she’s talking about and I wouldn’t want my daughter to bring one home. Dude needs a mother not a partner.

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        Nope this is a list of all the men available, like she said. She’s painting all emotional men with the same brush. There are good men and bad men in each of those categories she listed, but she thinks we’re all bad.

        So I cry and need a hug sometimes? Emotional labor. I can describe the full range of emotions I feel to a partner and deal with them in a healthy way? Gross.

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            I know who I am. I’m just reading what she said. That’s the dating pool.

            Let me ask you this:

            How could a decent man possibly respond to a post like that without being lumped into it, like you just did to me?

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      This is not about having emotions or talk about them. It’s about expecting your partner to navigate your emotions for you. If you don’t know what emotional labour is, you probably were lucky enough to never have to be in a relationship with someone who expects that from you.