Yeah my experience is similar to other replies - no nonstick will last you for ever.

If you want a BIFL pan, a real high quality stainless steel one from a restaurant supply store will be your ticket IMHO. You’ll be able to use metal utensils in it and not ding the coating, and you can use real steel wool and brillo pads in it and not hurt it. I tried for years to baby various nonstick brands but they always got fucked up one way or another. Even ceramic coated eventually chipped and scratched until it wasn’t very nonstick anymore.

It won’t be as nonstick as a coated pan, but it will truly last you forever; they’re made for kitchen staff which means they’re built to get the shit kicked out of them regularly. It does mean more scrubbing but it also means not buying pans every year or two, so 🤷‍♂️

Edit: Oh I just remembered my favorite trick for removing caked on grease and whatnot - fill the pan with water (and a tiny bit of dish soap if it’s really bad) then put it on high heat and boil it.