• nesc@lemmy.cafe
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    12 hours ago

    Have you tried not to hate yourself? WTF are you even on, there is a high chance that it’s a joke, and even if it isn’t why would “men” be scum here instead of individual?

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      6 hours ago

      I don’t hate myself.

      I hate that enough men out there are such amazing assholes that it has created a generational issue which understandably has led to the assumption that as a man I’m probably an asshole too.

      I hate that women understandably see me in public and make assumptions about my risk factor to them because victimizing women is way too common place.

      Me, however, I’m pretty ok with.

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        2 hours ago

        Unless you are an asshole, why would you say that you are asshole, if you aren’t sure you can ask. Statements like ‘I don’t hate myself, but actually I think that I’m an asshole because someone else is’ are somewhat conflicting.

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            2 hours ago

            as a man I’m probably an asshole too

            Are you going to try to weasel out of your own words by saing that probably here means that you aren’t actually an asshole and you don’t believe you are?

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              2 hours ago

              Cherry picking out parts to remove context is a pretty lame way to “win” an argument bro.

              Here’s that segment which doesn’t intentionally remove relevant context:

              … which understandably has led to the assumption that as a man I’m probably an asshole too.

              Which is—fairly clearly—saying that I understand why others might make an assumption about me.

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                1 hour ago

                So you assume that other people think that you are an asshole doesn’t actually mean that you think that you are an asshole? It isn’t cherry-picking when discussion started with you generalizing about “men” being not_good by default. There is little that is understandable about such a position, have you tried not to have negative assumptions about yourself and other people that you don’t know?

            • DaPorkchop_@lemmy.ml
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              2 hours ago

              You’ve cherry-picked that out of context, they were clearly trying to say “other people assume that all men are probably assholes, therefore they assume that that I’m probably an asshole”

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      10 hours ago

      He clearly doesn’t hate himself. Stop trying to us vs them.

      “Men” are harmful in the same way that you don’t put your hand on an electric stove. You assume it’s going to hurt you until you find out otherwise.

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        2 hours ago

        No, “men” aren’t harmful any more than “women” are, unless you are completely delusional. People don’t assume that random “men” are going to hurt them unless they have serious problems, or living in the active war zone. This over-dramatization doesn’t help anyone and isolates you from absolute majority if you really think that way. You can isolate yourself, just don’t act like it’s normal in any way.

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        10 hours ago

        Sorry but if you don’t see how that comparison is beyond not ok somethings wrong here. Which isn’t to say you can’t feel like that bc that’s just the natural result of bad experiences.

        Easily half the turkish immigrants I’ve interacted with were people begging or threatening me on the street, that doesn’t mean I assume turkish immigrants are assholes. Because I know it’s both selection bias (most normal ppl just mind their business and don’t randomly talk to you, immigrants are poorer on avg so there are more homeless immigrants). And even if 95% were pieces of shit I’d still at most be more careful, but not somehow try to include all the ones that aren’t a problem in the group that I’m complaining about.