Your mum/mom is the key female figure in your life; a person you go to for love and comfort, who supports you and encourages you and pushes you to be a better person.
Your mother is the person who gave birth to you.
These are not always the same person. Everyone has a mother, some people have more than one mum, some people don’t have a mum at all.
I’m one of the ones with no mum or dad. It gets hard sometimes to hold back the bitterness and cynicism when I see a family just… Happy.
I was just coming to these comments to say if anybody needs a mom and isn’t too hung up on “appropriate topics for a Mom to talk about” and doesn’t have any weird expectations that I’ll behave like a neurotypical- I fuckin got you fam just DM me.
Start with something to let me know you need a Mom or I might say something awkward but yeah.
True story- my mom was a malignant narcissist (diagnosed!), a drug and gambling addict, and a real piece of shit. And when I was much younger, I was all upset I didn’t ever know what it was like to have a “mom” like you see on TV. So I decided, I’ll be my own fuckin mom.
I’ve been honing my Mom skills ever since. Any time I’d think, “Man, I could use a Mom,” I’d ask what that person would be doing, figure out what it was I was missing, and then I’d just… do that. I’d talk to myself, I’d comfort myself, my chocolate chip making cookie skills are off the fuckin chain!
You can be your own Mom. You can be anybody’s Mom. Those are all skills you can practice.
Be the Mom you want to see in the world.
